Someone help. Any advice/words of wisdom needed.

Tbh I think it’s hard to give advice on this one . Personally with what you’re going through I will definitely not have another child with him. At the end of the day he’ll probably leave you and you’ll be stuck with two children to look after . But it’s really up to you . It hard to give advice on someone’s relationship

I think deep down you know what the most sensible thing to do is and you’d like some validation. I’d say look after you and your son and heal with your family. Xx

I think you should go back home, keep seeing a therapist, get your support and focus on yourself and your baby. Don’t have another child with the same man that leaves you to do it all on your own. His views are wrong, he needs to help with his child because he is the dad and if he doesn’t want to help then why does he want another one? You also deserve to relax. don’t let him control you and your life do what’s best for you and your child. You know you can’t do it so definitely don’t, trust your gut because you don’t want to live with the regret or making things harder for yourself

Honestly , this sounds very similar to my situation . Except I stayed because I didn’t love myself enough to leave and he was the only person I had been w/ things started to get worse as time went on and I felt so weak . We ended up pregnant w/ our 3rd and that’s when I felt life was over for me. I struggle because I feel I will never find true love . I’ve always wanted to be a wife but having no support from family and being in this relationship and a new mom was all too much . You know what you need to do , you listed good things there it might be hard but you can do it . Don’t be like me and stay . I can’t speak for you but in my case it really doesn’t get better and now I have to live w/ it .

Also , feel free to reach out to me anytime .

I had two kids (the second one was definitely unplanned and probably not the best decision for how our relationship was) by my ex husband. But he was narcissistic and very toxic. I couldn’t bring myself to get an abortion because of my own beliefs. Here I am years later divorced and have both kids and my ex isn’t apart of either of their lives. After a few years on my own with the kids I did get remarried but I started out single mom with two and a POS ex. But I had support from family. I said all this to say I get it. But you don’t have to stay. Make the decision that you can live with (as far as the second child) and still leave. It’ll be hard but being with family can definitely make it easier whether it’s one kid or two. I’m sending 🫂 and my heart is with you.

@Sachelle I also stayed and had another kid (we just had two tho). I stayed way longer than I should have. I agree regardless whether she keeps the baby or not she shouldn’t stay because it doesn’t get better.

@Jessica yeah it’s definitely hard, same thing because of my beliefs I couldn’t bring myself to abortion and I’m glad I didn’t. It was hard at that time but being a mother is so rewarding. I will say when I did work up the strength to started to find myself again life was so much better and I know it will get better for her too. I made the poor decision of letting the father of my kids rent a room from me and now I’m back in a bad headspace so that’s why I encourage you to keep going and not look back. Hope she makes the right decision. She’s going in the right direction w/ the therapy and moving out (:

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It’s the most difficult situation ever but I have to do what’s best for my little boy and my mental health. Sending love to you all xx