Would you take offense if your BD called you "hypocrite"
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I agree with the above commenter. You definitely hurt his feelings. You should apologize. Dad's have instincts just as much as moms do.
@C Thank you for your opinion. I never really thought about that. I just feel like, I was a mom before I actually became a mom so I am confident with myself and so I ended up kinda like disregarded his feelings towards the situation. You don't have to apologize, I needed that.
@Leslie I will! Thank you!
I get it! I helped raise 2 of my niece/nephews. One even lived with me. So it's have more experience than my wife but in having our daughter, I had zero experience with that specific child. My wife definitely needed to research everything and I had to remind myself that some things are new and there was a time i was scared about certain things but that lessened with practice and experience. Yk? My wife was practicing and experiencing things as a parent and I just needed to remind myself to allow space for that without making her feel dumb or annoying in that moment. You acknowledge your mistake and I'm sure you two will talk it out and you'll both handle it better next time ❤️
Please don’t make him feel like he don’t know better like he’s doing his best and watching you to learn Half the time winging it is the way to go I wouldn’t give Tylenol list. They had a fever or you could actually see they had pain otherwise you’re just gonna have to hold them and rock them and comfort them.
@Sonja There was a time he gave her Tylenol because he thought 99.5 was a fever, but when I ask her doctor he said it is not a fever. I wasn't aware that my response would make him feel that way. It wasn't my intention but it happened so I will apologize.
U can’t expect him to trust your intuition if you’re not willing to trust him too. Healthy communication is important & both opinions & feelings are valid. You both sound like you just want what’s best for baby & love your child so much which is good. I think it’s great he researches everything to check if it’s good enough for baby 👏 but trusting the dr more than his own fatherly instincts needs work.
It's both of your first babies, regardless if you were a babysitter and handled your nephews. You're both first-timer parents, and naturally, there will be things that'll scare you, both, maybe at different times. I think he felt hurt that you kind of just lessened what he can sense in his daughter as a father. He's her dad. He knows her too, and fathers can tell when something is going on with their kid too. I'd apologize for suggesting otherwise. You're not the more capable parent because you have experiences with other peoples children or because you don't need to research everything before giving it to your kid. You both love her and you both have her best interest in mind❤️ I just think his feelings are hurt.