If the sex wasn't good anymore,would you?

Sounds like it’s not good cause he doesn’t care to make it good for you. Have you talked to him about it? Bad at sex vs just selfish and not trying is very different

definitely just talk about it cause if sex the only thing making you want to leave then why not just fix that problem instead of jumping to a break up

I wouldn’t say just leave. Have an open conversation with him about your needs/wants around sex and see if he’s receptive to making changes!

Have you tried adding more elements to your sex life? Role play, sensory etc? That may help though I know it’s not for everyone

Are you together just for the sex then? You both need to communicate and explore.

Talk about it, set boundaries and involve new things in the bedroom! Communication is definitely key when it comes to sex

Communication is key. Sometimes things become routine or feel rushed especially after having kids. Sometimes you might want to try something new spice it up a bit. You would be surprised to hear his view points might be similar to yours

I honestly stay because there's more to my husband than just sex. Now if sex was the last thing to go then yes. But if that's all that's the problem then I'm staying

I wouldn't just leave. If everything is else is good and healthy we'd be discussing the selfishness in the bedroom. Thats what it sounds like is going on. So if he's tired after he finishes and honestly can't go on then he needs to focus on pleasing you first.

Do you orgasm? I always thought the sex w my ex was great until I orgasmed w my husband then I felt robbed of all the years I COULDVE orgasmed, but didn’t 😂 oh well. Anywho, if the sex isn’t great put time out to play w yourself and get to know your own body so you know how to build up the momentum and tempo and know that point just before an orgasm so you can go past it and actually cum.

This sounds like my situation actually. Like me and my partner since having our last child we haven’t been sexually active, as we used to be and then when we are sexually active, I do feel like I am doing it just for his pleasure and not for my own. Do I enjoy it? Yes eventually. But at the beginning and getting into it. Nope. But i still love him, just need to get that spark back!