Should I ghost or tell her right now I don’t have the energy to communicate with you? 😩🤦♀️
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I think you should set some boundaries with her. She’s enabling her son to act like a deadbeat and that’s not okay. She’s not making anything easier on you and that’s what grandmas are for. At the end of the day, that’s your baby that you take care of. I don’t know for sure if this will happen or not but just in case, make sure you keep all evidence. If someone wanted to take you to court about your baby, at least you’ll have evidence to back you up. Make sure you also have people around you that support you. Just don’t let people walk over you or overstep. You got this momma.
@Hannah yes thanks this has been such a hard thing to deal with but I’m thinking I’ll just let them take me to court which I doubt he will with his record and he’s not going to like being on child support. She would really have to get him to do it if she’s able to. When I show my support system the things she has said they agree that she’s bugging. But when I spoke to her abt it she said I’m taking it that way that she’s just speaking reality 🤦♀️
I think you are going to have to be the adult here, maybe send her a message and explain to her that her son has not shown any interest in the child whatsoever and he is a grown ass man and if he wants anything to do with the child he is able to contact you about that. When it comes to her talking about rights, and persisting different things you are the boss here, the main care giver she can’t be telling you what’s what. So make sure it’s known that if she wants to see her grand baby that you aren’t their to discuss him or anything else during that time, as that is adult talk and it doesn’t include talking bout it around a child or talking about a man baby doesn’t even know. Be the adult. Lay it straight to her.
Communicate your boundary with her. Your bd's family doesn't have rights to your child, but he does (I think that's the case usually) as long as he's on the birth certificate. Sometimes we have to pick our battles, but it's very important to at least communicate your boundaries clearly. Explain to her that you aren't going to put up with how she's talking to you and treating you. Make sure it's clear. Good luck!
Id set boundaries but you can't let her not see the baby. In some states, grandparents can take the parent to court to get the right to visit their grandchild.
That’s still YOUR child. She can’t make up rules or tell you what should happen with your child. Don’t feel bad or guilty. She’s not waking up all hours of the night to take care of your baby, you are. She’s not over tired and trying to feed and bath the baby, you are. She’s not going nights without sleep or food or just simply taking a shower because of your baby, you are. She had her time to parent. This is yours. If she’s not listening to you and not respecting your boundaries, stop replying to her. Slowly cut her off. Do what you feel you should do, it’s okay. Your mental health matters way more than her feelings.
@Hannah yes thanks for understanding. I need to have peace and mental clarity especially since I’m doing it alone. She just comes off very entitled and I told her if she can take things slow and that I barely know her. But yeah I just have to keep reminding myself that at the end of the day I make the rules.
Gotta be the grown up even if they arnt acting like a grown up atm you don't need to put up with her shit if she doesn't see her son is doing anything wrong