Is one enough?
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I was done after 1! 8 years later we’re now preparing for our second baby’s arrival. I wasn’t ready, I was traumatised by a not so great pregnancy and birth (preemie/NICU baby) and I just thought I never want to do it again, 1 was enough for me for a very very long time. Now my daughter is independent (not that she was difficult anyway because she was a little dream but it took me so long to feel different about having another) I’m sooo excited. How you feel is exactly how I felt and only 8 years later am I finally ready. Your mind might change but either way it’s entirely up to you!
Definitely sounds like a lot of stress during your pregnancy and birth and even the first introduction to your daughter’s life! Completely understandable that you don’t feel you want any more. When my son turned 1, I felt very similarly even though I had no trauma in the pregnancy, birth or newborn phase. As you said, I just began to feel like myself again when he was turning 1, I was not ready to do it all again and I couldn’t even imagine wanting to. That began to change for me when he got closer to 2, and then once he was 2yrs I knew I wanted, and was ready for another.
I am an only child and honestly had the happiest childhood. What do you feel guilt about? If your daughter has a loving family and plenty of friends & activities in her life then that’s more than enough. You don’t have to justify your choices to anyone 💖 People should mind their own business and stop asking such intrusive questions 😝
My lo is 2 and I can say at this point I am perfectly happy with one. I also had a very difficult pregnancy. I started with contractions at 16 weeks. Was in the hospital for the first time at 24 weeks. And ultimately was put on bedrest at 28 weeks. I feel you on the I am not sure I want to do it all over again. In addition my main support system lives 2.5 hours away. I often think, I always wanted more than one child but I am content know my daughter at this point is happy being an only child. I wouldn’t push yourself to do something that you might not want for yourself just because everyone else thinks you should. Also my siblings and I have a 6 year and 12 year age difference. There is no harm in making that decision once your daughter is older either!
I was genuinely happy with 1 and got really upset when people kept asking j was really poorly for 2 years when my biggest one was 2.... I was on natural cycles and it appears my.body never regulated as we ended up with a surprise but genuinely now he's here I wouldn't have it any other way but it took me so long to accept it. Ultimately it's up to you and you don't have to justify your actions. 💙
I’m diabetic I’ve had 2 children one is 7 and the other is 1 they are the complete opposite no baby is the same or pregnancy , with my first my pregnancy and c section was nothing compared to my 2nd with my 2nd my diabetes was so bad and the c section wasn’t good either , Whatever you decide whatever makes you happy
Even if she’s easy there’s no saying number 2 would be! Only you can decide if you’re happy with life how it is. For us there are lots of Pros to having just one child and just a few Cons for not.