Do I do more?

Im feeling really guilty about annoucements/baby gender reveals and baby showers. This will be our first child, and only child as we had to get help to conceive, and it's been a long journey of multiple losses and awful heartbreaks over and over... I'm not exactly excited and still not really embracing it's finally worked! And I'm pregnant and all is going "right" for once.. I'm a little older and so is my partner, our younger siblings all have babies, and we're the last ones in our family to have our miracle.. But there's just no excitement there to go ALL out.. We're definately feeling pressures from family, and their excitement is most definately higher than ours.. The guilt! 😢 Does anyone else feel like this? I'm almost halfway through and barely told a soul yet.. 😅 And really, I'm not up for any sort of mad gender reveal or shower either way.. 😭

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I’m pregnant with my second now. I didn’t do any of that with my first. It just wasn’t/isn’t important to me. People suggested baby showers etc and I said no - will only add stress to me when I want to be chilling! Sounds to me like you’ve waited so long for this that your excitement is just to have your baby and be parents, not being excited about all the stuff that comes along with pregnancy. In your circumstances it’s totally normal to feel how you feel. Some people love all the parties etc but I’m just not like that and it’s your choice so just put your foot down. You will find your own ways to get exited as you become more pregnant and it feels more real that your little baby is finally coming! Don’t feel guilty at all 💗

@Andrea Thank you so much for validating this. It is sooo hard to embrace everything right now.. I think like you say as the pregnancy goes on longer things will feel different, but at the moment, I still don't feel safe.. pregnancy after losses is such a weird place to be.. Thank you for taking time out of your day to reply x

I’m pregnant with my 1st and my partner and I are not into baby showers/gender reveals etc. We’ve kept everything low key and a lot is just between us. We’ve known baby’s gender for a week and have hardly told anyone! Pregnancy can be so overwhelming at times the last thing I would want is too much attention or stress. As Andrea said, you’ll find your ways of feeling excited. Dont feel guilty 🙂

@Jess Thank you so much Jess ☺️🫶🏻 I'm glad I'm not the only one. I think my husband and I being first borns in our family has pressure and it's been so long to get to this point, So I know in a good way has made close family excited, but we are feeling the same, wanting that low key/no attention for now xx

I never had a baby shower or anything like that with my first and won’t for my second either. Not for me!

Had a similar journey, with losses, and it’s only really been the last week or so (feeling movement just before 20 week scan today) that it’s started to click that it could actually be happening! Felt a lot of guilt at first as it was just impossible to let myself get excited, and each person we told at work or very close family felt like “tempting fate” - still does a little, but no choice really as it’s getting pretty impossible to hide 🤣 We’re also not planning to do any announcements or reveals as we’re quite private people so nothing wrong with that either! It’s hard when you know that pink line doesn’t always lead to a happy ending, but your LO will win you over! Much love, and you got this mama!

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