Am I overthinking?

No your not crazy !!! Always go with your gut feeling ....I wouldn't say you're stupid either ....

Also I have no one to talk to about this no one to vent nothing so I feel like that’s a lot harder on me I don’t know

How long have you known this friend .also why does he drive her to work.

Not long I don’t really consider her a friend she’s hangs out with my sister more and we rarely talked before she moved in. As to why he drives her she works at the gym he goes to so he changed the time he goes to the gym to be able to drive her.

Oh heck no , keep your eye on them . I wouldn’t have even been comfortable with her moving in upon HIS convincing , always trust your intuition.

The gym thing is weirddd

I spoke to him today about it how it bothers me that she’s here and I’m uncomfortable and he told me I need to change my mindset

That’s awful, you should have stuck with your first mindset n said no, that’s letting a whole stranger w ur son n ur man. She has no connection to you to feel bad abt anything she does to you. I know I would never feel comfortable w another female staying w my man and me it’s a hell no

Do you have any reason to not trust your fiancé ? Any past infidelities or lies ? I only ask because again this is the internet we could just be feeding an insecurity and it could be nothing but him having a big heart. I don’t know your situation or your man so I’m just wanting to be fair. I will still stand by trusting your intuition if that’s in fact what you’re feeling . Just always need context.

The thing is my fiancé isn’t usually nice to other women like hates being around them tells me how he hates all my friends but he doesn’t really do the same with her you know he talks to her my fiancé and I were in a bit of an argument and they were in the bathroom with my son together

I just feel like I’m over thinking every situation with her because she’s not a loyal person and she’s cheated on the people she was with before and I’ll be the first to admit I am insecure especially after having my son and I’ve mentioned it to my fiancé before so I don’t know I guess I just need someone to talk to

Have they known eachother longer than you’ve known her ? That’s just so very strange

Nope he met her through me but I think what’s messing with my head so much is that he used to hate her literally asked me why I talk to her and now he’s talking to her and doing all that and I just feel like something isn’t right

This is a foul situation.. there’s definitely a lot of red flags

Oh heck no , i rescind my considerations. She would be out my house tonight. I’d ask around for her to have somewhere else safe to go & make it happen. That is no way to live

The thing is I know she has no where else to go which is why we’re letting her stay with us her mom kicked her out and then when she found out she was pregnant her mom sent her shelters

Idk I’d figure something out shoot. Didn’t you say she’s friends with your sister ? How long is she supposed to be staying. Her and her mom can’t reconcile ? There’s gotta be some solution.

Yea so my sister and mom actually live with us to but we’re all going to be moving in June so im hoping she finds something before then

She still talks to her mom, her mom just didn’t want her on her couch anymore

🚩🚩🚩 runnnn if you’re uncomfortable with something your man is doing he should stop doing it immediately

So that there added some layers . So 4 months …. I’d definitely be apprehensive and watching what’s going on closely. Try and place some boundaries with your partner especially when it comes to being around your son, don’t want to confuse the child, or disrespect Yall relationship. Hes gotta see how things are looking inappropriate.

I had another conversation with him about how she is kinda trying to parent my son and how she even tried to give him something she drank out of I know that seems crazy but I’m kind of a germaphobe so her trying to that is disgusting to me and she just got rid of a cold

But he told me that I’m just overthinking and that I need to trust him

Yea she’s a little too comfortable, just keep your eye and try to trust him .

Um who is she pregnant by?

@Erica she’s pregnant by this guy she was dating my fiancé didn’t even see her then even at the gym so I know it’s not his so that’s a bonus

Seems odd that he's convinced you to move someone in whose pregnant and whose now trying to parent your child. Are you 100% sure this baby isn't his?

Personally I wouldn’t trust a man who puts another woman’s needs or comfort over mine. They never do that for just friends. Her stuff would definitely be outside tonight and he can go with her if he throws a fit. Never let a man think you’ll tolerate anything. Also when men complain about a woman usually it means he likes her, you may think he hated her but it was probably to keep you from suspecting which would explain his obsession now.

So what happens when she has her baby?? She still stays w yall n be f-ing your man behind ur back ?? U said she cheated before on people who cared abt her. There is a reason why no one else is letting her stay in their house. N she was in the bathroom w him??? What?? Atp I would think he’s trying to gas light me n the situation is going to get worse if you don’t stop it. How he don’t like her to liking her all the sudden? Even switching his schedule around? Don’t sit there n watch this lady basically be n ur face n playing w u.

You absolutely need to put a stop to it, like someone said if your partner is putting her needs and comfort before yours that is crazy! It’s the fact he wants her to stay, why? Why is he so bothered? And the fact he’s at the gym while she’s working, that would make me feel so uneasy! Them in the bathroom with your child would have me raging too! That’s where I would have stopped it all. That’s way too much, I don’t know how they can feel comfortable standing in a bathroom together, I couldn’t do that with my best friends husband and I’ve been best friends with her for 28 years! And they’ve been together since we were kids, there’s boundaries and these two are crossing them, I don’t understand why they are so comfortable in doing so!

So she's dated your fiance before?

No they never dated sorry if I wasn’t clear they only met after I met her I used to work with her for a bit

Last night before my fiancé and me went to bed we had a conversation he told me how I should talk to her about it and the only reason why he wanted her to stay with us is because she’s pregnant and if we didn’t have our son he wouldn’t care in the slightest but because we had such a difficult and hard pregnancy he didn’t want someone to worry about where they’re going to sleep and everything

I even asked if the situation was reversed where it was someone he knew needed a place to say and I was the one to mention him staying with us spending time with me and our son how would you feel his response was it’s different

Maybe I should get some nanny cams because I’m about to go back to work tomorrow and it smells a lot like fish

It all sounds strange if I was you I'd boot her out . Her situation has got nothing to do with any of you he should be concentrating on you and your lil one noymt Her. Pack her bags get her gone

Oh no no no. She’s got to go. I’m sorry but it’s your home. Your family. Let her know ahead of time and help her if you can find somewhere else. There’s always a way. Look up resources. She can find housing.

Thank you all I really appreciate all the help