Need advise..

Bd has a serious problem with being respectful and controlling himself. I’m 27 weeks pregnant and he got out of jail December 27th (for his 5th DUI) and found out I was pregnant with his kid and told me about wanting to be there and we have a very colorful past with abuse and addiction.. he went to a rehab and got kicked out for smoking weed and now he’s in a sober living and says he’s trying to do better. 3 days ago he started talking about “I don’t even know if that’s my kid and gotta get a DNA test” after a couple days of just being disrespectful and talking to me like garbage. After that I told him he can wait til after he is born then do the DNA test and now he says he’s wants to be in the room and he had no doubt it’s his kid and he was just upset. I always had a problem standing my ground with him.. I don’t know what to do. I don’t even think I would feel comfortable having him in the room with me being so vulnerable, giving birth, I just feel like he’d be added stress.. I don’t know. I know it’s his kid, there’s no doubt in my mind, but is it messed up to keep him out of the birth.. I don’t know what to do here

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No way is it messed up you only need positive vibes when you are giving birth no added stress

^^^ I agree with @LaviniaMy ex is also disrespectful and defiant with addiction problems. Found out he cheated on me and sent me into labor. I had him in the room because I felt the same way you were describing that your feeling and at the end of the day it was a mistake. On and off with him but at the end of the day that should have been mine and my only beautiful experience. Wish I never shared it with him because he will never understand how beautiful that truly was (plus he didn’t deserve to)

The only people who should be with you in the delivery room are the people who make you feel supported. I do believe dad’s should be present, but if they’re not showing the support through pregnancy, then they’re not invited. Delivery is the most vulnerable you will ever be, and you want someone there who supports you through it and doesn’t cause it to be a terrible experience. I’d rather be alone in the room than miserable with the company.

I wouldn’t let him in the room at all my child father wasn’t there for two of my birth so he can mess out fuck him he doesn’t care about your feelings so why consider his

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