Am I being over sensitive?

So this is a little embarrassing. Me and my partner have not been intimate since I have been pregnant, except for maybe twice and little one is now 3months. We don’t cuddle anymore, or hold hands only if I get upset about it. And he never kisses me. I went to a party with friends last week and got really dressed up, so much so it was out of my comfort zone but wanted to make an effort for me but also for him and he didn’t blink twice at me. I was in the shower this morning and he walked in. As he left and was shutting the door I saw the look of disgust come over his face. He didn’t know I had seen until I told him I had and he tried to deny it but I know what i saw. A few weeks ago we’d had an argument which got really heated where he told me that I “don’t do it for him anymore”. Afterward he said he didn’t mean it but my point is why say it then? I’m really down this morning and it’s obvious he’s hurt me and he’s told me I’m being over sensitive and that he loves me. But obviously just because you love someone doesn’t mean you necessarily fancy them does it? Am I wrong? Am I being over sensitive?

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Definitely not being over sensitive! Obviously we can't always help how we feel but he's been very shit about it. Like, grow some balls and communicate properly 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm sorry you're going through that. It sucks if he's not attracted to you at the moment but he needs to be open and honest with you, you deserve that much at least. Whether he's attracted to you or not, he should feel awful about hurting you but it kinda sounds like he doesn't really care. I'd sit him down and ask him to be honest with you, however shit the truth might be, you need to hear it. He can't keep fobbing you off, you can't expect to progress and move through this together if he's not being honest.

@Lauren that’s what I’ve said. I said to him today well at least I know the truth now about why you won’t touch me. He came back with some rubbish about how we’ve been arguing a lot lately and that’s put him off. Which we have been bickering and not get along but that’s because I feel like he isn’t as supportive as he could be. In my head I seen his face whether he wants to admit it or not and my confidence has hit rock bottom. So now all I can think is well if he’s not wanting it from me where is he wanting it from?

Yeah I totally get that. I've been there with my ex, we had slightly different issues but my feelings were very similar to yours. It's hard to come back from that, even harder when the other person won't take accountability or put effort into repairing the relationship 🫠 I'm not sure where you're at with it all, and I know it's harder with a young baby involved, but it might be time for a more serious chat and/or ultimatums. Because you can't carry on how you are, it's not fair to you. You deserve to be and feel loved and desired. He needs to figure out what he actually wants and stop giving you feeble excuses.

@Lauren it’s made me just feel less than in all honesty. I don’t really know how else to describe it. And I’m feeling like what’s even the point in raising it with him because let’s face it he’s not been honest so why will he now. And it just hurts watching him sit there and lie to my face knowing I’m upset and hurt. I’ve asked him why he’s even here and he said the baby. Says it all to be honest

Oh bless you 😔 I know how you feel, it really is awful when you realise the person you're supposed to love, doesn't feel how you thought they did 😔 honestly it sounds like you're better off cutting your losses, he really doesn't deserve you and I think you sticking around is just going to cause you more stress and hurt. Walk away from this tosspot and focus on yourself and your baby. Get yourself to a better place so when you're ready, you can find some who will actually treat you the way you deserve 💜

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