It takes soooo much for me to be happy and I don’t know what do about it. Help! Advice much appreciated x

Ive been through A LOT. I’m now in the most incredible phase of my life. Probably the peak as good as it will ever get. I’m loved, I have an amazing fiancé. Moneys not an issue. I have lovely friends, a nice home. A beautiful baby daughter. These are all things once upon a time I could only have wished for and I’ve worked hard to get them. However, with everything I’ve gone through with my past you’d think I’d know when to be happy, be more grateful and appreciative. But some days I really do show myself up and I can be such a spoilt brat. I get upset about the stupidest things. Im like a child who didn’t get her own way. And I can get jealous of other people easily when there’s absolutely no need to. I find it hard to say sorry and I also withhold giving out compliments (especially to my partner), even if I think nice things about other people. Don’t get me wrong I’m a good person. It’s just the older I’m getting and maturing, I’ve started to notice this negative behaviour in myself which comes out every now and again and I want to do something about it. Has anyone realised a similar personality trait in themselves and got over it? I really want to change but I don’t know where to start. ? 🤷🏼‍♀️😢

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I’m gonna be completely honest because you’re asking for advice. Don’t hate me. By the way you were describing yourself, you’re acting like a child. You need to start parenting yourself. Think of your daughter acting negatively the way you do, what would you tell her? If she’s jealous or mean, what would you say? Now say that to yourself when you notice these negative traits. That’s the only thing I could think of right now, but just noticing these traits in you and wanting to change is already a step in the right direction. You got this!

@Brooklyn I am asking for honesty and thank you. You’re so right I never thought of my behaviour as childish and I suppose it is.

I have no advice but reading this sounds literally like me, I can’t really talk about my feelings either & my partner thinks I don’t care about him when i do & I always try to show I do & then I get annoyed because he doesn’t think so still 🙄😂

Hi. Have you considered there could possibly be any sort of mental health issues here? I'm in no way diagnosing, but with you saying you've been through a lot in the past, it could play a part in your personality and way of thinking today? Does your behaviour make it difficult to maintain your relationships, or do you keep it inside? I'd possibly speak to your GP about it, or a therapist to try reveal why it may be. Hope you're ok x

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