my little rant cuz i just don’t know what to do anymore.

little back story so we get to nc to live with mom so u can join the army right away in november not gonna blame it all on him but we slacked a little and now u applied for everything to get in the army but u can’t say that oh yeah im gonna be going in the military like u dont even know for sure if ur qualified for everything. so u need to get a job and then hes like why r u bringing this up now and im like because everytime i bring something up u do this and tell me not to stress out or stop saying that or im not gonna argue with u so i dont tell u how i feel at all. and im like the baby is coming and im not gonna be the only one making money. hes like quit then and i said im not gonna quit because what is gonna happen is the baby is gonna have no mom or dad that has any source of income coming in and my mom and dad is not gonna be paying for diapers and everything we need because that’s our job and he’s like then we can doordash. NOO GET A JOB and i was like doordash isn’t gonna do nothing i will literally delete it and he’s like ok delete it and im like imma bring u back to tennessee and ur gonna work with ur boss because u were making 30$ and hour and he’s like where would i stay and i said ur boss told him he would pick u up from north carolina to tenneseee and u declined the offer like im like if u don’t get a job by the end of the month then we’re calling ur boss and he’s like and stay there for how long i said until u make enough money for this family and he’s like it’s not my fault if someone doesn’t want me to work for them and im like welp. then like he had the audacity to fricking say these stupid words to me ““ur mad for no reason”…. i have every reason to be mad “u shouldn’t be stressed out because of that” the baby is coming. i’m 20 ur 29. living with my mom. and u have no job and i just got hired somewhere “why r u complaining about it now” OHHH PROBABLY CUZ I CANT EVER EXPRESS HOW I FEEL “ur over reacting” yeahhh okayyy.

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Honestly leave him now while it’s easier. He’s 29 and he clearly doesn’t want to provide for you or his child and unfortunately that’s probably never gonna change. Definitely do not have two kids with this guy.

@Emily i don’t know where he would go because his whole family is drug addicts and he was livening in tennessee and we moved to nc so i just don’t know how and i care so it’s like super hard cuz i don’t know how i would do it because i don’t wanna leave him on the street

@kailey I’m sorry. It sounds like this is a super hard situation. You don’t want to leave him on the street but it sounds like he has no desire to provide for himself much less for you and his child… you do not need to be raising him too. He is dead weight and you’re about to have a baby. The love you feel for that baby will make your love for him seem minuscule, especially if he’s not contributing. I hate to say this but please consider at the very least not putting him on the birth certificate ☹️ he is 29 and he’s got nothing to show for it. He should have his shit together by now.

my mother traumatized me by continuously choosing to care for & feeling bad for men over her children. It completely destroyed out relationship and I will forever have built up resentment for her because of it. I truly hope you can see past the love you have for him and keep in mind you are about to bring another life Into this world and what you are doing, and what he is doing will 100% reflect back onto that baby. You and the father are that babies biggest role model and from what I've read, he's not the best one... what makes you think he will ever continue to provide for the family you've made when he can't even do so while you're pregnant. That's a super big red flag. Please just consider every single aspect of your relationship with him before your baby comes because it could backfire on you. It sounds like you are a good person and don't want your child to grow up hating you....

Im not trying to be mean im just trying to give you a real life prespective from someone who grew up with men like this.. I know it's hard when you love a man and want to see the good in him and don't want him to suffer, but you're a mother now and honestly to me, that's more important. I love my husband with every ounce of my soul but he knows this as well, I would absolutely do what's best for my child even if that meant losing him.. I would hope he would feel the same way and choose our childs safety and well being if it came to that.. Hopefully you guys can get through it and figure it out for your child..

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