Celebrating while grieving

Big hug to you! I've lost my dad a few years ago and we were very close. Knowing that he will never meet my baby and that she will never meet him is very very hard, but life goes on and we will keep his memory alive by talking about him and showing her videos etc when she grows up. Again big hugs your way, it's so tough... 😔🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

Awe I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I lost my mom in 2018, and I lost my dad in 2023, and then found out 3 weeks later I was pregnant. They were the best grandparents to my oldest, and knowing they would never meet the baby was very hard, and I still struggle. It is okay to be happy even when going through a difficult time, please don’t let anyone ever make you feel bad about that.

I’m so sorry you are part of the same club. I lost my mom before we had a chance to welcome any of our kids and every time I found out I would want to call her. I did from time to time send messages to her old phone or even write her a letter to let her know about the pregnancy. I so often share pictures and videos of both my parents (2016 and 2019 they left us) with my kids. My oldest, now 4, has started asking when she gets to see her grandma wanda. Kids will love people if you teach them about them. My kids know that peaches are grandpa Joes favourite and they pretend to be stealing his special treats when they get peaches. Going through pregnancy without a mum earth side is really hard but I hope you take comfort in knowing that when that little girl comes out you will get to share every detail of your mum with her and she will grow to love everything about your mum.

I haven’t lost my parents so can’t relate to that but I was really close with my Nan. She died in 2021 after getting Covid and I was so upset she never got to meet my grandson. I was closer to my Nan than my mom growing up and told her things I’d never in a million years tell my mom. She left such a massive hole in me that I never thought would be filled but he has filled it in a way I never thought possible. I plan on telling him about all of his great great grandparents and we have photos of all of them so if he asks about them we’ll tell him. It’s not a consolation but the way I see it is as long as I can talk about her and remember her how she was I’ll never really lose her

In the same boat too, though my little boy is now 7 months old and I lost my mum a while ago. I so wish they could meet but having him is also healing. It motivates me to be a better parent as I want to give him what my mum did not have when she was a baby. I would say grief has come up more often now be is around. Similarly to others here, I try to create traditions around my mum and incorporate her memory into our life.