Do you think she did this on purpose or just a coincidence?? I'm pregnant, so I need an outside opinion on if I'm overreacting 😂

100% intentional. Not a single doubt in my mind, fight with a wall😂

Could there be some resentment/ jealousy that you got pregnant and she didn’t? Hence the quick change in decision to get married instead

@Lauryne maybe, but she's seemed supportive

If you have no other reason to believe there’s tension, I would assume it was an oversight or at worst subconscious. I have found life is better when I assume the best of people.

i feel like it’s too weird for that to just be a coincidence but at the same time i cannot fathom being that petty and intentionally setting my wedding on the DAY of my close friends due date after she specifically told me the date…

Completely different perspective but take for instance my sister in law passed away out of nowhere earlier this year, my parents in law had to book a date for the funeral they picked our son's first birthday. My partner was absolutely raging and rang them up saying about how we'd been discussing everything the weekend before. It was a complete oversight on their side with no malice whatsoever they just completely didn't register it when deciding. So her head may have been so stuck in the wedding headspace that your due date didn't even come into her thoughts

@Charlie yea i do understand that, but when she first told me about the wedding it wasn't really a set date, just said end of the Aug/begining of Sep, so i did mention my due date (29th Aug) and joked it'll be more likely for me to make it if it was Sep so i can push baby out first, then a couple days later she came back saying they picked the 29th

If they've decided to get married this year could it simply be they've found what venue they want and that's what date is available/affordable? I'd just send a message saying that if it is that date then obviously you unfortunately might not be able to attend and go from there, her response/reaction to that will tell you what you need to know.

I like to give the benefit of the doubt but when you're armed with knowledge and yet to book a venue, you've become a frenemy!

She’s a hater but don’t stress it, you’ll likely give birth before her wedding 😂 enjoy your pregnancy

If we're close, like actually close, I'd say something like, "😲😭 I wish we could confirm yes to your wedding. I would not want to miss that. That's our due date though, remember? We might have to miss it. Is there anyway you could move the date up so we could be there for you or even after?" If it was a mistake then she might be like oh shit yes and move it or she might let you know that the venue they wanted only had that date available.

@C i did reply with "i won't be able to RSVP as i might be giving birth" (something like that anyway) and there wasn't really much of a reply

I felt it was intentional, but wanted to think well and say coincidence. But for her to say Aug/Sept and you say well I’m due Aug 29 and she still come back and say Aug 29 afterwards - def intentional cause girl I just told you any day but that one basically

I guess I’d also ask; does whether it was intentional change how you’d respond? You have three choices that I can think of: 1. Let it go. Put it in the history books as that weird thing that happened that time and when the date rolls around focus on the special time it is for your family 2. Confront. Have a conversation acting like it was an oversight (even if you believe otherwise because results will be better if she’s not defensive) and express your concerns from the standpoint of “we love you and really want to celebrate with you” and ask if there’s any wiggle room with the date. If it comes up using lots of “I statements” to explain why it was hurtful to feel disregarded. 3. Hold a righteous grudge… which might feel good but make it hard to be close again when she comes to her senses

@Dea that's really helpful actually to see the options all in one place, like a pros and cons list 😂