Trans or Nonbinary

I am not, but I am a safe space

I’m non-binary… there are some cool understanding people and then there are people who clearly drank the kool-aid… just gotta keep an eye on comments and you will see who is safe and who isn’t… but honestly most of the not safe ones hide in incognito…. But if you ever need someone in the community to talk to I’m around

@FairyMother 🦖🌸 is one cool enby! Keep staying safe. Your identity is valid no matter if you're out publicly or not 🖤

@Lyss are you open to questions? I’m an educator so try to make myself aware of different identities and non-binary seems to be one that stumps me a bit.

@Daija yeah I love questions! That’s how we learn! 💝

@Lyss great! I noticed in your bio your pronouns are she/they. That confuses me because for m binary we would say she=they, her=them. So why wouldn’t it be she/them? I think I accidentally misgender my advisor who recently changed their pronouns openly to she/they because my brain can’t compute how “they” fits in the sentence instead of her.

@Daija so it’s she/they but it also technically her/them… so she is first because people who don’t know me as a person… just some random Jane doe on the street will see me as a she, I know i present very feminine even when dressed masculine and I am treated as a woman for the most part in society and also I have the connection to women kinda like a sisterhood…but to those who know me, know who I am know that I’m a they. They know I don’t associate myself as a woman personally in that way. I view myself as a person in a meat suit… I also don’t subscribe to what the psychological differences of male and female are… So the slash in between she/they isn’t to change the grammar to single/plural for example it’s more I am a woman but also non-binary. I can’t separate my 2 identities so I embrace both. If that makes sense.

There’s probably a group on here for it. There’s a group on here for everything

Safe space here

@Lyss got it! Okay so one more question if she/they is more about identifying gender (or lack of conformity to gender norms) rather than grammar is it appropriate to say she/her when speaking about you or they/them or either or?

I’m not either but I’m pan and a safe space 😊

@Daija that is more based on individual preferences. I honestly don’t necessarily care what pronouns are used for me. Granted the one time someone asked me my pronouns in public was like such a great day… loved that i had someone guessing vs assuming lol but I will out of spite if a particular kind of person addresses me then I will emphasize my they/them pronouns lol

@Abby that is true we have an LGBTQIA+ group but unfortunately… there are the bi girlies with internalized homophobia that has kind of unfortunately put a bad taste in my mouth in that group… all those women who have husbands but want to have a gf on the side bs… it’s gross… so I don’t post in that group just to avoid those types…

No disrespect intended, just confused. How can one be both trans and nonbinary?

@Rio non-binary means they can identify as neither, both, or in between male and female identities as society deems. Trans means their gender does not fit their assigned gender of male or female. For example, a non-binary person can be born female but fit into neither category but be more comfortable in a male body and vice versa. Transgender and non-binary are umbrella terms that can fit a wide range of people. Not all transgender are non-binary nor are all non-binary people transgender.