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He doesn't see you are applying so he's assuming you aren't. I applied well before mat leave was up and I got a call back and I said something to my husband and he said I didn't know you were looking already so he probably has no idea either. I'm still not working but that's beyond the point. We all assume unless told.
That was very mean of him. Best of luck with the job search, you are doing great.
Your husband is out of line. You guys need to have a conversation about teamwork, and he needs to pay you some respect for everything you’re doing!
There’s a lot going on here. And I know I’m focusing on the least important part but I’m confused about “I got my Canadian benefits…. Now it’s been 5 months i stopped getting the money”. Which benefits and why stopped? If you’re in Canada maternity leave is either 12 or 18 months paid. Also if your employer fired you, you should get a severence package. But it’s unlawful to terminate someone in Canada due to their pregnancy. It’s discrimination.
Your husband is out of line. But this is why I’m a big advocate of women not paying 50/50 because once marriage and kids come along, it’s rarely ever 50:50. Women will go through pregnancy, childbirth, nursing the children, doing majority of the houseWORK including carrying majority of the mental load and still have to fork out money to pay bills. It’s a lot. More like 75/25. It’s unfair that he’s doesn’t respect the work you’re doing and doesn’t allow you this time to focus on this journey of early motherhood and REST!
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You deserve to be treated better.
No money no respect is real. But u gotta remember ur value doesn’t come from money or cooking or cleaning . Ur tired . Please rest like a queen. He needs to get used to that norm bc ur a new mom and being sahm is so tiring even when it seems like u didn’t u anything that day. He sounds like he’s struggling to pay the bills but he should ask for help not insult u.
Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your husband. Although finances are a typically topic of arguments in marriage, money should not be that important as to belittle a spouse over. Discuss how you feel when he says comments that are disrespectful and if you’d like to as far as telling him how you’ve been applying to jobs and that you supported the family the best you could while working and even during mat leave. No one, not even your husband should disqualify your efforts and support in the household. This is just a recommendation so feel free to ignore. Nonetheless just know your doing absolutely amazing, keep it up mama 🥰☺️