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i guess i’m still clinging on because i grew up with my parents separated and it was awful and i haven’t spoke to my own dad since i was 5, but you’re right he just isn’t bothered enough thankyou for the advice i really appreciate, needed some sense knocked into me 😩💗x
You deserve so much better, unless he sees what hes losing and changes dramatically you're never gunna be happy and you'll always feel lonely and abandoned in the relationship, its better to be alone or with someone who really cares about you than stuck like that as it will only hurt your mental health more x
@Lyndsi just wish he would change like you say it would have to be dramatically and i have little hope left it’s so frustrating thankyou for the advice 💗
It’s unfortunate you have a BD who isn’t right, but it doesn’t mean you should stay together just because of your upbringing, all children react differently to this and you have to do what’s right for you too, I really don’t think having him there will create a good father figure, do you? Don’t see how he is as being that father figure you felt you missed? Because if the answer is no then why have someone there who isn’t going to actually give you the ideal father figure you’re craving for your child? Just because he is the BD doesn’t mean he is right for what you’re looking for. If I were I’d speak to him seriously about how involved he actually wants to be rather than going out with his mates again and smoking weed
Honestly this sounds terrible with what you’re going thru especially since you being pregnant with his baby..wouldn’t he want what’s better for the family that’s he going to have. It isn’t okay with what he is doing now & it can definitely say a lot about the time of person he is known if he will be a father & doesn’t try to do what’s better for his child. I understand by you saying you want your baby to be raised by two parents however just to be together for a baby doesn’t lead to anything good. If he were to try that would be a completely different story. You do deserve so much better & more than anything. Best wishes
i really appreciate it girls, i ended up blocking his childish antics apart from whatsapp, he also has my mums number and hasn’t made an attempt to contact and our 20 week scan is later on today, he knows the time and date so we will see cos i won’t be re confirming 😸👍💗💗💗
Why are you still with this guy??? I mean everything you’ve just said doesn’t bode well for the REST OF YOUR LIFE! And you will be more so irritable once you’ve had the baby. Please don’t forget that if he can’t act responsibly now then there will be no chance once you’ve had a baby he isn’t going to miraculously change overnight. If I were you I’d stay near your family and if he wants to make the move to you then so be it but you’re changing an awful lot for someone who can’t even go to one scan which is a bit deal! This is the first really scan to see your baby xxxx