Seperation
I do not know how to feel about this.
We separated 3 days before Christmas 2024. We had toxic habits and a unhealthy relationship. He originally wanted the divorce. He was really cruel towards me after he moved over to his parents. After having so much anger and resentment i decided to send a text saying that I forgive him and myself. Our relationship started going down hill when he punched holes in the walls and when we had a abortion. Which put me through emotional and mental hell. We even use a parenting app now because its usually high conflict when we speak on the phone.
Whats your thoughts and opinions?
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@Kathryn thank you. So it maybe just about the money? He just sent a text talking about saving money to get a cheap car before August.
I’d most likely say this is the reason why. The fact be bought up the separation document as well would solidify for me that he is trying to say I don’t want us together but I can’t really afford to get divorced at the moment.
I agree. From what he’s said I feel like it’s definitely financial rather than feelings. Hope you get it sorted in a way that’s good for emotional wellbeing
I would start the process.
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Firstly I hope you’re okay, It really depends on what you want from this, if you have decided it’s the end and you want a divorce then I’d start the proceedings myself. It seems he is probably not starting them because he will need the money for his studies? And the fact he says he doesn’t have it in him reads to me like it’s because he doesn’t want the stress of the divorce and starting studies Divorce doesn’t have to be expensive as long as you both decide what you want from it. If it’s a pretty clean cut divorce then just go for it. I know people that have never bothered to get divorced because it’ll be too complicated but everyone’s stories are differ t as to why they get there in the first place.