nap rage

I felt so calm during pregnancy & the 6 months I was breastfeeding but lately I have been feeling exactly what you have been feeling. I am a SAHM The most recent regression + teething was very challenging for me and my husband. My boy likes to roll over and put up a fight during poopy diaper changes. Ashwaganda, magnesium, l-theanine and vitamin d are very helpful supplements for helping me feel calm, although I'm not perfect at taking them consistently. At least you are self aware, and I can tell just by that you are not a horrible mother. You are allowed to be angry and frustrated, its tough stuff.

I recommend seeking therapy or talking to your dr about postpartum rage. I get frustrated when my baby won’t nap but I can’t imagine raising my voice at him. 10 months is a baby. Sleep regressions are normal and developmental. It’s normal to feel frustrated but it’s not normal to raise your voice and get worked up at a baby. You’re not a bad mom but please reach out for help. The first few years of a baby’s life are so important in how they view things. Every interaction they have with you or another human helps develop the type of person they will be. Temperament. Patience. Anxiety. Calmness.

i never said i scream at him but it IS normal to get frustrated with a baby, especially as a first time mother. and i ALWAYS apologize to him and show him love. it’s not often that i raise my voice but i am in therapy and spoke with my doctor and they said my feelings are normal. i appreciate your opinion but i dont think its correct. i’ve spoken with some other mothers who have felt the same as me. i never hit, scream, yell, etc. but it’s normal to get snippy and feel overwhelmed with a baby. i get that he’s a baby and i remind myself often that he has no idea what he’s doing and he’s learning. but so am i.

Is he sleeping thru the night? I’m having the same issue Doing the day and rarely some nights. It’s exhausting. I even got approved for wart head start and he won’t even nap there.

Same girl!! You can try humming to bring him down and also your nervous system. Basically you Rock him and when you breathe out, you „hmmmm“ all your air out! Or breathing technique: breathe 4 secs in, hold 4 secs, breathe 4 secs out. It’ll bring your pulse down immediately

I wouldnt call it rage mama; but definitely frustration. Currently dealing with the same thing and just for a piece of mind; i usually lay in bed and let her sit up in front of me. She will play with her feet, whine and fuss until shes extremely tired and then i just lean her back into my arms and rock her until shes sleeps. Works 90% of the times she refuses to lay down

@Jess thank you so much for this information!🥺

@ash i’m so dumb and didn’t realize i could reply to this without replying to the whole thread thing. new to this lol! but thank you so much ♥️ i’ll have to look into those! i’m still nursing but ive heard good things about those. you’re doing great mama, we got this one day at a time

@Mandy it’s so overwhelming and makes me feel so terrible. thank you for your kind words ♥️ i’ll have to try that! thankfully bedtime is usually alright but it’s these naps that are killing me some days

@Nai he is mostly! sometimes he’ll wake himself up and stir a bit but he usually settles in a minute. i’m sorry you’re dealing with the same thing:( it really is exhausting and feels so defeating sometimes. you got this!!

Let me know how it goes!! For us it worked wonders 🥰 because at a point we were exactly where you described

But also I wanted to say: is it possible that your babe is transitioning from 3 naps to 2? My sons transition sounds like what you described.. tired but not going down to sleep

My Lo is teething and took an hr to go down 🙃

@Jess it’s totally possible. he just gets to upset and has so many sleepy cues still three times a day that i try to let him sleep when he’s tired. but maybe!

@Jadie i feel for you mama 😭 it’s rough when they’re teething on top of everything else

It’s absolutely normal even as a seasoned mom. Talk to your partner and trust as a SAHM too with a partner that works it hard to have that conversation especially if they get up early for work but you can’t “work” as a mom exhausted.

@Amber it’s so hard :( i work full-time from home too and i’m the only one who really does much of anything for the baby .. i’ve tried to have those convos with him but he just gets upset with me. it’s a hardline to walk