Anxiety about in-laws looking after my baby
I’ve never had a great relationship with my SIL as she has been horrible to me since being married for no apparent reason (seemed she didn’t like the idea of her brother being occupied?) and she goes out of her way to annoy me and do things which bother me, in a very immature manner. She’s now asked my husband if she can look after my 3 month old baby for a day which I find baffling, as I have not left my baby with anyone yet and it most definitely will not be her first.
I told my husband I only feel comfortable with my baby being left with people who I have a 100% solid relationship with. I’d even go as far as saying that I don’t want my SIL to ever look after my baby. Am I being unreasonable? There’s been too many things in the past and present where she has gone out of her way to cause drama and I do not believe she is a genuinely nice person.
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I don't think you should be pressured or feel as though you need to agree to this. It's an odd request and I've certainly never heard of such a thing? Especially one that comes from someone that isn't too fond of you. I don't think you're being unreasonable, you do what you feel comfortable with. If someone doesn't treat you right, don't expect them to have genuine care for your baby. That's a red flag. Personally, regardless of my relationship with someone, I wouldn't leave my baby with anyone. That's just me.
“We don’t need anyone to look after baby just yet, we will let you know if we do”. Done!
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If you don't trust her, you don't trust her 🤷♀️ that said - there may be some good compromises here. Perhaps your husband could go spend some time with her with the baby. That way she isn't ALONE with the kid but is still helping out and she gets the brother time it seems you think she craves