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@Trish i get that too. There is one particular family member that really gets on my nerves when it comes to my daughter. It is her uncle but he is not blood related as my hubby's family has adopted many of their children. He also has his own child(a boy but he wanted a girl) 4 months older than my girl. The uncle is separated from the mother and lots of drama between them. He lives at home with his parents and since we visit often we see the uncle too. He is very affectionate towards my girl. Picking her up often, even if she didnt go up to him and act like she wanted picked up. He has complained about his son wanting to be held a bunch. So i have brought up why doesnt he hold his son as much and i get his excuses such as : "my son is squirmy" "but he is heavier" "he isnt as fun". My reply to these excuses were: "she is just as squirmy" "she isnt much lighter than he is" and the last one i say nothing cause im irritated at that point. But there has been other odd behavior that im not too fond of..
Yess! I can relate to this! I have an 8 month old baby girl with blue eyes and tons of hair. Men and woman come up to me all the time.
I think sometimes people are just lonely and seeing a wee baby takes them back to when their kids were young. Probably lingering for a chat and to get some joy.. not ideal when you’re busy/going about your day but I don’t think it’s always a red flag. My FIL loves babies, boys or girls and will quite happily sit and entertain them at parties whilst the parents socialise. Mainly because they are a lot easier to deal with than the adults 😂 he just wants an easy life!
This happened to me once in Costa, a lady kept coming up to us and then kept staring at her when we were eating. I knew she was just awwwing at a new baby but I can’t lie it did make me feel uncomfortable! Are we wrong for feeling weird about it!? 😩
I think you might be overreacting. Your big concern about your daughters uncle is that he picks her up. I mean, that seems pretty normal to me. You also went out of your way to say he isn't blood related. I'm not sure why that matters in any way. I have people come and say hi to my son (now 3) quite often. The women are the ones who mention his looks. The men chat in context, eg the other day we were walking up a big set of stairs at the hospital and a nice man said to my son something like "it's a long way up little fella", smiled and continued down the stairs as we went up. Everyone has been lovely. A sweet waitress told me and my partner that our son has the most beautiful big blue eyes, is gorgeous, and looks just like me. I was flattered and said so. Thanked her and joked that everyone I've ever met will know she said that, lol, then we moved on. I have social anxiety, so it is sometimes hard for me to have these unexpected conversations, but people are just trying to be nice and make conversation.
@OP, my SIL is the one who irks me. Let me just start by saying that I know she doesn’t mean anything nefarious by what she says. I know she loves my son whole heartedly. And I know, acknowledge and appreciate how much she does for us when we need someone. Ok, so what annoys me the most is that whenever she’s asking about bub, she asks how “her” little man is doing. She has 3 boys of her own; 11, 14 & 17, but my son is “her whole world”. She also got a tattoo commemorating him. My issue is not that she got the tattoo, it’s that it looks like something a parent would get for their child, not an aunt for their nephew… she has recently mentioned that ‘something is missing’ from the tatt, so when she gets it touched up, she’ll be adding ‘Aunties lil man’ below it (which was the original plan for the tatt and why I didn’t have an issue before it was done).
I have an almost 13m boy. So many (mostly older) women come to coo at him and say hello. The only people that seem to get on my nerves when it comes to my son, is a couple of family members, so no getting away from them lol.