Does anyone else start to cry when they start expressing themselves during a deep conversation with their SO?

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I don’t do this with my partner because I feel very safe with him but it’s happened with other people. It’s because of past trauma.

I write letters (: I write it, I re read it, I give it to them before I plan to have the conversation, I say pls read & refer back to this during our discussion Some couples get a notebook that they pass back & forth too

It's depend on what the subject matter is for me but yes I definitely do have times where I cry. Usually I know it's going to happen because I will cry before the conversation so I will write a letter. I let him read it and when he's ready we have the conversation. It also helps on his end because when I start crying he doesn't know what to do either.

I do what Parker said.. I wrote letters, notes, or texts. I’ll tell him before the text that I need to get some things off my mind, so that he knows he doesn’t need to answer right away, but that it’s an important message

You could take breaks in between talking and while you’re gathering yourself he can explain how he interpreted what you just said I also find it calming when my partner and I are touching in some way while having conversations like holding hands or sitting in his lap or my leg on his something like that to physically show myself he’s not the enemy and it’s safe to express myself

Text it. Lolol

I do cry but I can talk through it. If you stay calm and on top of your emotions, it doesn't matter if your eyes leak Try rehearsing a speech in your head of what you want to say

I cry if I’m really frustrated, but not usually. I would suggest what Parker said, writing a letter and reading from it or give to your partner and discuss it with them later on

Ask your therapist about doing some EMDR, it can really help with past traumas that pop up like this in relationships. If your body still has trauma stuck to it that keeps coming up like this it would be really beneficial to work through that trauma and rewire your brain to a more positive experience. I should also add I experience something similar and I have some some EMDR around the specific wound I carried (even though I didn’t really know consciously what it was, my body remembered.) it helped me out and now it doesn’t happen as often. Hope this helps!