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@Chey i did that. I put him by her and he said if I do it he’s just gonna walk away. He helped some before like holding her here and there but ever since that argument he claims he’s just gonna do nothing since apparently thats what I said he does. Literally putting words in my mouth and i even told him that he needs to step up rather than just telling me to find someone else. Ij dk what to do. I really dont bc i refuse to put my child at risk in any way ugh
So, instead of proving you wrong, he's gonna prove you right? Make it make sense...
Do you have a family member that can help you? If yes ask them to move in with you, he'll either go nuts or start to do something but at least you have some help
@Charlotte girl thats what im saying
@Joana we just moved here far away from all family. Dont have room for anyone to move in either sadly🙃
So you told him he needs to do more to help and now he's acting like a man child and saying that you told him he does nothing. I would not tolerate shit like this, but since you are with him and he is the father of your child I assume you have feelings for him and want to make it work. Have a conversation with him and tell him that you did not mean to make him feel like he doesn't help, but you still need him to step up and help more. Let him know you appreciate the things he does do, if any. Even a diaper change or a feed. Help him do it if he's uncertain. Encourage him into conversations about how you should handle taking care of your child, encourage his input and make him feel like he is contributing. Again, this is assuming you want to make it work. If he is just a deadbeat dad, then end it, you and your baby deserve better. Remember that this sort of shut-down behavior is something he will pass on to your child, if you let it continue.
Do not allow him to do that it’s not okay you need to be more demanding you didn’t have the baby by yourself. He knows exactly what he is doing and is hoping to get away with it. Put the baby right next to him and walk away (of course as long as it is safe). And keep doing it. He will keep putting the baby off making you handle everything if he can. If he doesn’t step up or want to talk about it then you need to tell your family to get help, this is how bad ppd start not okay by any means if he can help.