You know what’s annoying

Where about do you live?

Me too I am just shy but I want mum friends go out.

I've not been on this app for long enough to have even arranged meeting up with any mums. I just wanted to make a friendship and meet up. It's sad to read some people do that. I am not so hopeful after reading this.

I’m in CT And I didn’t want to hurt feelings hence why I’m anonymous but girl it’s insane like why spend hours chatting me up I invite her out bought her and her son a ticket to a kidz club thing here it’s a public setting so it was not weird only for her to not show up once said she got busy I said ok

Then I made another plan with her and she showed up and was on her cell while I played with both our boys and she was like u do this often

And said oh do u ever go out for a drink and im like no im still nursing and i spend my free time with son nothing against moms that have time solo but why even be on the app if u dont want to meet moms that are with their kids

I just think it’s better to be up front and say hi I want mom friends just to talk no meet up

Or mom friend just need some girl to girl time no kids

It really depends on that specific mum and what she wants I find they don’t all want the same thing..I find out what it is she wants and be that for her, whether it’s only day play dates or whether she’s looking for someone to spend a girls night out w her and has no one to go with…that’s why I like a variety I know who to call for what. I know some sleep at 9 so I don’t chat to her late at night so I chat to someone else, and I know one coparents every second weekend and she may like to come out w me for drinks at night. (Mocktails when I was pregnant/BF) Just gotta find out what she wants, and what’s not achievable for her (like no play dates if she works FT, or no nights out coz her partner won’t look after the Lo etc) I’m sorry you bought tickets and she didn’t turn up though, that sucks I’d be annoyed as well. Like if she told me earlier she couldn’t come I could’ve passed that ticket to another mum I know

I did I was there with my son for like 4/5 hrs when I saw someone else coming in On my way out I just gave her the unuse ticket Paid it forward 

For everyone that replied I wish we were closer ya sound like really cool moms

Oh no. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope you’re able to find someone as committed as you. You sound awesome.

That is awful! I’m like you. I put a lot of effort in first- (I don’t bother with alot of texting at first bec of exactly what you experienced.) but I usually host people at my home. If they’re not interested , bye! But I only have time for friends that accommodate kids. All our Christmas parties and summer BBQs include everyone’s kids. I even set up games for different ages. My house isn’t huge-just my heart 🤷‍♀️. Financially I just can’t do all $$ with kids sports, birthdays ($$ for hosting our kids’ and $$ for attending their friends) outings, family trips, camps, preschool AND do adult things. Also, I only have my stepmom to watch and she hasn’t had my youngest yet. So I have only had one date night, near her house in the past 5 years! Ispent a lot of effort trying to make friends with my first son. 15 of us would meet weekly at eachother’s homes for a massive play date. So fun and I met a few friends that stuck. Son always asks who/if anyone is joining us when we are going out.