in September 2024 Babies 🇬🇧

Advice!

In a few months we are visiting my partners family who live around 4 hours away. LO will be 7mo then. Partner mentioned leaving bubs with MIL overnight and going out with some friends. Definitely don’t want this to come across as a “anti MIL” post in any way. I know she can look after a baby as she has had three herself haha. I’ve just gone into a panic about it. I haven’t even left her with my own mum and I just feel like that’s the only person I could actually relax in any way with leaving her with until she’s abit older and even then I haven’t yet. I don’t want to come across mean or petty or like I’m being unfair. I just know I would be sooo stressed leaving her with someone she doesn’t see very often, especially overnight. And feel super stressed about having to give instructions to my MIL (it’s way easier with your own parent right? As you’re not worried about offending them?). Do you think I’m being unreasonable? Is it something I should just lump? I know she’d be fine and it’s nothing specifically against MIL. I just also know I’ll feel so stressed in the lead up and won’t enjoy myself while I’m out. Advice appreciated!

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I think this is actually totally fair. I haven’t left my baby overnight yet but if I did it would be with my mum and no one else until he is a bit older.

It’s natural to feel anxious about leaving your little one. I honestly have no intention of leaving my little one with anyone else anytime soon. I would not relax if she wasn’t with me or my husband. I’m quite happy not getting away from her.

Sounds like it’s not about leaving her with anyone you just don’t feel ready yourself which is perfectly normal. A lot of my mummy friends didn’t leave their LOs for a while. Hopefully if you can tell your partner you’re not quite ready yet he will understand and won’t put you in the position where you have to tell your MIL you’re not ready. I left my LO with my MIL this weekend for the first time overnight but I see her everyday so my LO has a strong bond with her, if that wasn’t the case I wouldn’t have left her. I also cried 3 times that day before I took her and just after I left her but I had amazing updates and pics all night x

Yeah I think the whole fact of your MIL not really seeing your baby and then leaving your little one with her while you go out, it would give me anxiety too hun! So your not been unreasonable x

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