Sex after birth
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I did after 3 weeks. Vaginal birth with episiotomy and suction cup, stitched etc. The first time was actually painless but the next day I got a sore achy feeling downstairs and sex was painful a couple of times after that so I probably should have waited a bit longer 🙈
Iv3 had 3 vaginal births, always waited 6 weeks
@Nicole oh okay! did it get better after a couple of times? I read that it can be quite “dry” down there postpartum. Did you experience anything like that?
I had an episiotomy and second degree tear plus a traumatic birth so sex for me was definitely not even on my mind for a long time. We tried at 3 months PP but I just thought it felt so strange and asked to stop. My partner was so understanding and never pressured me but it did take till about 8 months PP for sex to feel somewhat similar to what it did before having a baby.
I had the same birth, we eased into it by doing oral first, then tried other stuff a few days after.I was stressing myself out about it as well you aren’t alone with that, I was 5/6 weeks postpartum. Don’t rush yourself into it listen to your body xx
I had an episiotomy too with a traumatic birth and waited 7 weeks PP but was so painful , waited again until 9/10 and it was better but still bad. Sex was painful for a while after tbh . Episiotomies can take a while to heal unfortunately Xx
I'm almost 5 months and we haven't successfully had sex yet. Very painful and very tight pelvic floor.
Had stitches and had sex 6 weeks pp I felt completely ready and was healed, took it slow but didn’t hurt at all and for both of us felt better than before.
Yeah it definitely got better but since having my episiotomy but even now (19 months later) I now have pain in certain positions where my partner is behind (doggy etc). I assume it’s from scar tissue or something x
6-7w. Gentle and slow and lots of spit/lube lol.
I hap an episiotomy with my first and we had sex around 4 weeks. Wasn’t as dreadful as everyone made out but definitely took a few times before it became enjoyable again! Had a superficial tear with my 2nd and again waited about 4 weeks. I think it’s more when you’re emotionally ready rather than physically!
3 months.... If I tried earlier I found blood in my undies. That was scary . Just wait the 3 months recommended period.
Same birth with 3rd degree tear mine was about a week and no problems
7 weeks and then again at 11 and then consistently after that. First time is always scary. If you’ve had an episiotomy try lube & make sure your partner gets you relaxed before hand and doesn’t rush anything xx
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I definitely waited the 6 weeks postpartum and maybe because I'm not waxed or shaved (sorry tmi) that I feel I sometimes get like friction burn on my perineum but does depend on the position and whatnot too.
@Courtney I’m in the same boat here, what part was painful exactly, was it the outside with the stitches or inside? My husband and I wanted to at 3 weeks but I got scared about infection so planning on waiting to 6 week marker x
I should've mentioned that aside from that small but if friction burn that's only happened maybe twice (I just used the spray hospitals give you to make it feel better) sex, even the first time after 6 weeks, was amazing! My partner took it slow with me.
@rosie Hey , it was inside and out . Just felt so sore for ages and like stingy and burning 🔥 Took me around 8/9months PP to feel better tbh. And I would advise scar massage as the skin can get really tight and painful . But my daughter is 19months old now and everything feels normal again X
11 weeks. Had an episiotomy as well and my external stitches came apart at day 7 so took longer to heal. I didn't get back on contraception until 16 weeks PP so we had to use condoms so it definitely felt different to prior to pregnancy to both of us. I'd suggest taking it slow and wait until you've had your stitches checked.