Coping

How are you supposed to cope when a coworker announces they are pregnant and their due date is very similar to what yours would have been!? I am sure there are similar posts on here, but I really needed to post this as I am feeling all the feelings currently. This has hit me like a tonne of bricks and I honestly feel all those original emotions rushing back. I was starting to feel like myself again and I was actually feeling happy and level until this came out of nowhere. I am so happy for my coworker but my goodness this is painful. I should have been announcing my pregnancy around about now, but instead I am navigating all the things that come along with the devastation of it. Context- I miscarried 3 weeks ago, and I am due to take a pregnancy test this week to check on my hormone levels- I have an awful feeling it will be positive still which will really hurt as I’ll feel no further forward. The lack of control and all the unknown is what makes all of this so difficult. Dreaming of brighter days with a healthy rainbow baby on the way 🌈 ✨

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Just take it day by day. Let yourself be sad, frustrated, whatever, but know those feelings can coexist with your joy at your coworkers news. I have 4 or 5 friends all pregnant or who have just had their babies and my miscarried baby would have been due any day. It's tough, but I get to be happy for them and support them like they would have supported me. I thought it would hurt a lot more, but it's actually nice. Hopefully you can get to this place with time xx

I would feel the same in this situation, it's hard to want something that bad and it snatched from you. Just try your best to support them, if you feel like doing so, if you can't do this or yet that's fine too. All your feelings are valid they would probably feel awkward anyway that they're pregnant (if they knew) as it could affect you, and I hope they consider your feelings as well. It's a situation both out of your controls, it's normal to feel a bit jealous. I hope you get your rainbow in time. You're stronger than you think you are. Your body has been through so much give yourself time and grace. A day at a time 💗

Sending you so many positive thoughts. This happened to me last year and it really really sucked. Like you, I know how precious successful pregnancies are so I was happy for my colleague but my heart hurt for my baby that should have been in my arms at the same time. Honestly, I got a lot of counselling! However, set your personal boundaries and know when you can or can’t partake in pregnancy conversations with your colleague. You can be supportive whilst protecting yourself. X

Silent heartbreak every time

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