Masturbation

I think masturbation is healthy. I don't own him. And it's not a case of self pleasure Vs you there's space for both If he was regularly choosing alone time instead then that would be an issue, but now and again isn't a problem

Masturbation is just like scratching an itch. I’m not gonna scratch my husband’s ass every time he has a little itch and I definitely don’t expect him to do the same for me. Don’t overthink it. Masturbation is healthy and normal and it’s wrong to try to police your partner’s interactions with their own body. That works both ways.

Personally for me: If we were intimate often and my emotional + physical needs were met, I wouldn’t find it an issue. If he were choosing masturbation over intimacy with me, then it would be an issue

We maybe have sex twice a month. I would prefer to have it more often but he’s not in the mood or doesn’t initiate. He is choosing to watch porn and view other women than be intimate with his wife

I have sent photos and vids to him in the event that he ever needs to “get off” he can still watch me when I’m not physically there for him. Would you be comfortable with that? Sending him yourself? I also do that to flirt w him and it’s kind of foreplay before the real thing for us, like I’m teasing him when he’s at work or when I’m out w the girls etc and he’s looking forward to coming home or me coming home. Tbh my man doesn’t masturbate as often he only really does it so when we do finally have sex that night, he can last longer because he’s not too overly excited, that’s his goal when masturbating is that he’s looking forward to the real sex session that night.

Never bothered me and still doesn’t.

It's important to understand that issues like erectile dysfunction (ED) are more common among men than is often discussed. Many men may experience ED but may choose not to disclose this to their partners due to feelings of embarrassment or fear of judgment. It can sometimes take years for them to feel comfortable enough to share this information. Additionally, the role of pornography in relationships can be complex. For some individuals, porn may serve as a way to explore fantasies that may not be fulfilled within their current partnership. However, if you feel that your partner is choosing pornography over physical intimacy with you, it might be beneficial to have an open conversation about the topic. Consider discussing whether there are times when he might be interested in intimacy but is too hesitant or embarrassed to express that desire. It could also be useful to explore how often he feels this "itch" and whether he feels uncomfortable asking for help or support

Yea I’m fine with it… and we are both open with masturbating. It’s healthy… but of course in moderation… plus with us I know not everyone else but we have sent each other posts on Reddit. But I also know he’s very picky so I know it’s not going to lead into anything else.

Discuss it with him. Maybe there is some sexual needs that are not being met. Let’s start having honest conversations about sex.

Nah doesn't bother me at all. Don't you ever do the same?