Why is calling your partner “daddy” “papi” SO CRINGE????

I call him Papa and papi.

@Sylvia can you tell me if it’s an American or a specific ethnic group ting because I feel like everyone calls their partners either daddy or papi here. My partner is an American and I’m Vietnamese and growing up in a Vietnamese household it was never a thing for my parents to call each other by pet names. It was never “honey” “baby” “daddy” “mami” that sort of stuff 😂 and my husband and I just call each other by our names or “babe” as if that’s not good enough lmaooo definitely different to what I grew up with but yeah “daddy” is just odd to me because I always get scared people might think he’s my actual dad if I called him that in public you know??? weird stuff 😂

🤢 Idk man… it’s super cringey zaddy is weird too

I used to call my husband this, but now I refer to him as daddy in the house for our son. So in the bedroom it doesn’t have the same effect 😅

Unless it’s involving my children it’s a FUCK NO from me. Absolutely gross. I feel like being a mummy or daddy has been so sexualised and it just ain’t right.

I was going to bed and my husband accidentally said “come give daddy a hug” 🤣🤣😭 we almost died of cringe.

I call my husband Daddy when our toddler is awake so he knows who I’m talking about. Just like my husband calls me Mama. “Daddy, would you please get a plate and fork for Teddy?” But it’s never sexual 🤢

I still call my dad "daddy" and my mom is "mommy". We only say daddy and mommy when talking to the kids about one another. Never sexual.

Those “my husband is daddy” voters can you comment pls I just wanna know like is it a turn on for you or?

yeah ever since having kids i can’t do the daddy thing it’s so gross. felt wrong before but worse now

I call my husband babe around the house to the point where the kids mock us sometimes by calling him babe too😂 so they’ll walk around calling him baaabe baaabe baabe! He’s never been daddy 🤢 no one has ever been daddy. Apart from my actual dad

Yeah my husband is “daddy” almost at all times. But to be fair, I never really called him by his name but always used “love” or “my love”. It doesn’t extend to the bedroom really but I definitely have a deep satisfaction that I made him a daddy and find it pretty hot. But yeah, it’s kinda weird in public the few times I’ve accidentally called him daddy when we’re on a date and no one knows he’s actually a dad 🤣

I call him daddy but it’s not ina sexual way lol it’s never to like turn him on or while we’re being sexual so I don’t think it’s cringe. I also call him dad and he calls me mama so like idk lol using it sexually is kinda weird but I get it I guess 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

I HATE how the word "daddy" has been sexualized!!! I can't understand why a guy would even want to be called that other than that it creates the sense of a power imbalance, where the woman has to do whatever the guy says since he's in charge. It's icky 🤢!!! I refer to my husband as daddy strictly when speaking to our children. We have dumb nick names for each other 😂 he calls me tom and I call him mato because put together it's tomato 🍅 idk why 🤷‍♀️

Only in front of the children do I refer to my husband as "Dad".

@Grace it’s so gross like ew. They must feel a sense of an ego boost or something. My partner will literally tell me “you need to be more submissive” that makes me NOT want to be submissive 😂 honestly I don’t get the whole “daddy” thing either. It’s always felt wrong to me but hey each to their own 🤷🏻‍♀️

I call him papi when I'm talking to my kids about their father. But sexually....uh no lol

I never called my husband daddy and now sinc see having kids that would be a definite no. I refer to him as daddy to our kids so using it in the bedroom would turn me off

I call him daddy! It's a little kinky, he loves it, I like it. If it's not for you, don't do it. Maybe it is more of an American thing.

I call my husband baby or pappa(not in a sexual way) as a pet name. Daddy if I'm talking to my daughter

It sounds like he might be kinky but hasn’t expressed it in a way that can be healthy or productive I would say to talk about what are nos maybes and yes especially with names during intimacy. My partner loves to talk during intimacy and I don’t but I meet them half way !

I’m with @Shatoria I’m single now but I kinda like calling my men Daddy esp in the bedroom but I’m EXTREMELY submissive so ya I guess like, giving them all the power is hot to me. And I’ve never had a guy not love it. But when I step outside myself and think about it, it’s a lil strange. I enjoy it, but I can’t say I entirely understand it lol 😂 If that makes ANY sense.

@Dani Marie same, I'm submissive too, and wouldn't want to be called mommy🫣. But I find it hot too to call him daddy, it's definitely kinky and I understand you 100%.

We sometimes use the word the daddy or papi in the bedroom. Its kinky. He is very dominant and I am submissive. Whatever happens in the bedroom it stays between us. Hahaha It’s just knowing when to difference the meaning of it. We dont overthink about the word honestly.

I find it a bit sick! Like to me that’s him fucking his daughter. I’d never say that shit and if my husband asked me to I’d question his mentality, honestly.

@Alexis oh well I still wouldn’t call him daddy unless it was to our daughter 🤷🏻‍♀️ that shit is weird to me

It’s funny how “dominates” want to FORCE their girls to call them something. My man says “if she isn’t willing, I don’t want it”. You want to drag submissive into it but then force dominance. That is not how it works. There always needs to be will of wanting to do something from the submissive. Btw I call my man Sir in the bedroom. I call him sir because I’m willing. He’s been called daddy before and he likes it, but he knows I don’t. So I call him something else he likes.

@Kiana @Shatoria @Dani Marie I have dominant traits so I can never be submissive 🤣 but that’s good for you lot though

@𝒜𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓃𝒶 see that would automatically turn me off, don’t try and force dominance cos chances are you’re not gonna get it. Good thing he’s not forcing dominance, when I say no it’s actually a no 🤣 but they’ll be gentle comments here n there reminding me that I don’t call him daddy but we laugh about it now it’s just so cringe

@Amy dominance isn’t force either way, you know? Coming from male or female. Nothing good comes from force. If he’s living in that dominance for real, she would be willing to do whatever, with her consent ofc.

I haaaaate daddy like if a guy says he likes it it instantly puts me off 🤢 I can’t separate the meaning of it with an actual daddy if you get me?

Daddy and mummy is what we call each other around our daughter but once she’s gone to bed it’s back to normal

I find it weird and the word Zaddy grinds my gears. But I think it's more so an American culture that seems to be spilling over.

@Anita I clocked this very early on when I moved here over 2 years ago, it’s common to be calling your spouse “daddy” or “papi” so causally. Immediately issa no from me

I only call my husband Daddy in front of our son. Any other context is just… oof. Not my tempo.

Amy girl i have nothing to say here except you are so gorgeous holy hell😭😭 like an angel !!

Yeah it’s disgusting

I also find it soooo weird that people would call their man “Daddy” in an sexual way 🤮 I think anyone who has had a good / normal relationship with their ACTUAL father will find it strange tbh 😭

i don’t do it but i don’t find it disgusting

sounds like none of you have or know anyone with daddy issues lol. i had friends growing up who did this. i think as someone who grew up w a single mother and no dad present it’s not as weird to me the idea bc i never grew up calling someone dad or daddy so i can’t picture my father if i were to call my hubby that bc there’s no father to picture if that makes sense?

and it definitely goes hand in hand with dominance and authority figures and all that

@Amy I get that. Everyone’s different and to each their own, right? No man has ever FORCED me to be submissive. That’s just how I’ve always been with men. So ya, to me personally, the daddy thing is hot cause I see it as giving them all the power and that’s a turn on to me personally. But I can completely understand that if you have dominant traits then it would be hard or even weird to call your man daddy or be super submissive in general. And to be VERY clear, I have the OPPOSITE of “daddy issues”. I literally have the best dad in the world and am a “daddy’s girl” all the way. It’s not weird to me cause they’re 2 completely different TYPES of “daddy” if that makes sense…I’m not implying who I’m sleeping with is my FATHER cause ya….THAT would be gross…it’s just me giving them the power and showing my submission I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️ I hope this helps some of y’all understand that we’re not gross or weird. We don’t mean FATHER when we say daddy. We’re just different people with different kinks.

@Yasmin respectfully, I’m a “daddys girl” 💯 I literally have the best dad and we have the best relationship. Always have. But I enjoy calling my men daddy. Just to explain in case you didn’t see my last comment, IMO they’re 2 completely different types of “daddy” and that’s why it’s not weird or gross to me. Like, there are words in the English language that are the same but different meanings right? Like, that’s how I see it I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️

I do it jokingly sometimes, and we both cringe lol

I would feel weird saying it and my husband would probably hate it lol

Yea i do it jokingly but I will never do it seriously 🤣 but honestly to each their own lol

@Sinead thank you!!! You’re so kind

@Yasmin oh yeah for sure, like I grew up calling my actual father “daddy” that’s why I’m actually shocked at the votes results because that’s still 22% of the population. Wow wow wow

@Dani Marie the word “daddy” has become extremely sexualised it’s not normal imo. The only person who should be calling my partner daddy is my daughter even so I still don’t want her to call him daddy because the word is so sexualised esp with him requesting/implying that I call him daddy. Daddy may have different meanings to you but im still trying to understand how do you not picture your father calling your partner daddy esp in a sexual way and esp when you also have a good relationship with your father? Yeah it’s definitely a kink some people have, I couldn’t do it.

I say daddy when referring him to my boy but I wouldn’t just call him daddy out of nowhere 🤢🤣