How did you get your shit together?!

oh bless you, it’s proper shit isn’t it! Just wanted to say that first of all. me and my partner decided to separate in January last year and actually physically seperated in June. Since then it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions for me, which have improved recently but it’s a process. Please be kind to yourself. It’s so hard for so many reasons and my experience has been to experience the feelings, you have to go through them to get to the other side and therapy has helped. Not sure if thats what you want to hear but speak to any friends or family and just share how you feel and ask for support if you can. Do you have anyone you can talk to?

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@Laura yea the emotional support and therapy is already happening but it's not exactly helping me get my life in order tho. Like housing. Income etc. The inside work is easy for me. The material shit idk how to do

without knowing the ins and outs, is there anyone you can turn to who can help you to prioritise, suggest routes for support/advice?

I’ve found some really pretty planning apps (Fleur & floret) and they’ve helped me keep on track with routines/todo/calendar and budgeting. You could always use an app similar to Raiz invest which automatically rounds up any transactions and put the extra into a different account (eg: coffee = $6.70, Raiz will round up to $7, take the $0.30 and put it into an account). It might sound silly for a few cents here and there but it all adds up and you don’t really notice those little round ups missing. Staying active, doing some self care every day, therapy, doing things I enjoy or meeting with good people I can talk to, my house also isnt the way I’d like it but taking 10mins here and there to declutter/tidy up helps me a lot (mess can make me anxious/overwhelmed and shut down) I set my self a little routine and m it’s not strict more like a set of things I have to do in the morning and at night (put a load of washing on & stack/start dishwasher before bed etc)

Counselling?

It’s sooo hard. I had to go on antidepressants, a mood stabilizer, and anxiety medication. Without it, i was really really, struggling. It’s helped so much. I went back to school and hoping to graduate soon

@Chichi what's on your plate? Maybe we can help each other

@Jeny wow do you have help? What did you go back to school for? Sounds like so much and I'd love to hear how you juggle it. I was thinking of going back to school too so that maybe I can get housing but I also have custody stuff coming up. No job. Idk wtf is wrong with me. A kid is enough to motivate ppl but I'm stuck in a hole just trying to give him the best start and foundation with a lot of attention and attunement

@Jeny good on you mama on all things!

Your feelings are valid

I still struggle, but with medication, it’s manageable now. I do have help bc my mother watches my daughter while I go to class 1-2 times a week. I also live with her, but I am trying to move out after graduation bc she’s really controlling. Anyway, try to get into a remote field. I have 2 jobs now, 1 full time, and the other one part time. School I’m trying to do as many online, and the ones that i have to take in person are hard bc of having a kid, my mother always complains about watching my kid, but i dont have anyone else. I would have done fully online if i could. But i started b4 i was pregnant, and my school wont let me take my core classes anywhere else. I’m going for Accounting, my main job is bookkeeping, and other one is office assistant. But with a degree i will make more in public accounting. It’s still hard, but personally I recommend medication if you feel you could benefit from it