One day at a time

Trust me when I say that we all feel like this at this age. We are just doing our best and constantly worried that we are doing it wrong. You are doing a great job and please don't think your not, it's just that this is a really difficult time but it will pass. My daughter is nearly 5 and I still feel like this at times. When my daughter was 2 I would sometimes put her in a safe place, like her bedroom, and go into another room to breath 10 breaths so that I could calm down before dealing with her again. It's not the best but it helped. I used to let her finish her tantrum as well as I found it impossible to deal with her mid tantrum. When she hit me or kicked me she got 1 warning and then it was the naughty step. I didn't think this worked very well but I only did it approx 3 times and she seemed to get it. Message me if you feel overwhelmed as I have been there, trust me

My daughter is 15 months and has had full blown tantrums. If I have the time I will sit with her, confront her, tell her I love her and see if I can figure out the cause of her tantrums. Otherwise we use distraction and try to distract her with something else if the cause of her tantrum is because we took something away she shouldn’t have.

Honestly it’s just the natural developmental stage they’re going through. My second child turns 2 next month and is full blown terrible two’s already lol. But being a second time mom (first is 3.5 years old), I know that it’s literally just a phase, that nothing I do is causing it and quite honestly there’s only so many things you can do to get through this phase. I went mad trying every approach to calm the tantrums or stop them and at the end of all of it, time was the only thing that stopped them. The kids really just developmentally grows out of it. My daughter chilled with the tantrums around 3 and now will cry but doesn’t have full blown throw herself on the floor tantrums lol. I honestly think you just waiting till the tantrum is over is the best thing and just being there till they calm down is good. I was super triggered by my first kids tantrums cause I always felt like I needed to stop it so I’d go down a laundry list of things that never worked and I’d get so upset

You could also try and distract before full meltdown begins lol. Sometimes when my littles about to get pissed I just start doing something silly like dancing and making obnoxious noises and he forgets he was about to lose it lmao

Completely natural development.. my daughter whom I'm told is "advanced" for a 2 year old (told by professionals) does this all the time. Just trying to get what she wants is all.. sometimes if it's something little ill just tell her she's being silly and that I'm going to sit down and walk away. Other times, say she's upset because she can't go with her dad or whatever than I will just tell her why she can't go with him and then try to distract her. Most times it works pretty well.. I also find giving her choices for basically everything, helps. She likes to be "in control" so I allow her to feel as though she has control over a situation I.e. what show she watches, what she wears, what she has for her meals etc.. and she does pretty well with it. So for her clothes if we aren't going somewhere I give her 2 options. I pick the 2 outfits but then she gets to pick which one she wants. If we're going somewhere I lay 3 out, she picks her outfit to wear and then what outfit is going to go in the diaper bag.