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i would be SO upset over this
I think it's the hormones making it feel worse in your head, give it some time to see if shes still making you upset. Im curious why did his bio mom give up her rights?
I would tell your bf. I think that blood deals with blood. So if my mom is being psycho to my husband, I step in and stand up for him and vice versa. I would let him know that the comment upset you and if it gets brought up again that he needs to have a private conversation about it with her. My MIL kept calling my first born her baby and my BILs name. So it was a little awkward but now she doesn't do it
I would be uncomfortable too. If MIL keeps making comments then I’d have a conversation with bf about how I was feeling 🙃
As above comments have said, wait to see if it continues to happen. If so, bring it up to your bf to set a boundary with MIL. if it still happens after that, then say something yourself. After 6 years of marriage I have learned there are some things not worth damaging your relationship with your in-laws, or making it worse, hence my suggestion to ask yoir bf to talk to her before you do it yourself. However it is just MY opinion. You do you boo! At the end of the day it is your baby and you went through a lot to bring her here!! Best of luck!
My MIL actually went through a similar situation where she lost her last baby girl after a c-section and many complications. Her baby was 3 days old. She now refers to me as her other daughter. We have always had an amazing relationship so its nice to know she thinks of me as another daughter. However, if she were to say that to me about MY child, I would definitely feel some kind of way! I know its a different scenario but I would be upset about it!
As someone called Sara, I had to read this twice. That being said, I’d of been absolutely livid!!
I got the HARD ICK
I think she was probably just emotional from the situation. Older people say things like this without meaning harm the majority of the time. I'm sure she doesn't actually think her baby has been reincarnated as your baby or anything.
Personally, I would wait and see if it keeps happening or not. As a one off comment it's OK, she was feeling emotional and there may well be a resemblance between the babies as they are related by blood. She may have got carried away in the moment. However, if she keeps making comments of 'God giving her her baby back' or just referencing Sara then I would say something. I think it should start with speaking to partner first. See what his thoughts are, does he find it offensive or not? Additionally, if it comes to the point where you feel you need to address it with MIL, I would approach it very sensitively and wouldn't use it as an excuse to attack her. This must be emotional for MIL and a bit of sympathy would go a long way. But like I say if the comments continue and they upset you then you're right to address it.