Is this appropriate

I took video of messages but it’s too long to share. It was so hard not to say I seen everything already without telling on myself. They always go and see each other like when we lived in a different state and she was too she came to visit one time and he went to see her and he went to her state cause his friends had some business to do out there and he went and they “ran” into each other and here were we are now we’re only couple mins apart and she sent nudes before when he asked. It a lot I said it’s my last straw

In my relationship we aren’t friends with people we’ve had a past with (hook ups,exes etc. it’s just respectful to stop being friends with them and you aren’t really friends if you’ve crossed the physical boundary. I wouldn’t be happy about them messaging and him not wanting to show you. I would be giving him an ultimatum ie. Stop being friends with her or I’m leaving.

@Zoe when I asked him to show me he said “it’s my personal business” and I did I told him if he was to talk to her again or hang out anything it’s over and I have to stand on that I already know he was talking to her while she was in jail and he swear hes only when she message or something and I could never prove it but this time I know for a fact and she was posting all on instagram about being home and he said she should stop cause I’ll see it etc she always brings up he’s with me but that don’t mean anything cause she still being disrespectful but she don’t owe me no loyalty

Ohhhh absolutely not, if you have to question their intentions, they probably aren’t the right one for you, real love comes with clarity, not confusion. It seems to me they definitely still have feelings for eachother. In my relationship we’re not friends with the opposite sex, and ESPECIALLY if they had history.. big no no

I want to show him the video so bad but I know he gonna flip it and say I was going thru his personal belongings

I didn't even read the whole thing but my advise and what it has taken me years to learn but this has been backed up by my partner. But a man has no use for a female friend if he's in a relationship. If he wanted friendship he'd have male friends. What is the one thing woman can give him that a male friend can't? And sadly it has nothing to do with personality. If a guy or a girl thinks they can get that other person they will wait it out. For forever if they have to. If he truly cared this wouldn't even be a concern he's distance himself from her whilst being kind enough to say look we have a history. I've moved on this isn't a appropriate friendship to have. Bye bye.

It’s so disrespectful to you, especially after you set boundaries and he continues to cross them. I would give him an ultimatum, it’s either you or her.

And if you already know that's going to be his reaction for having something like that on his phone he's a big red flag. I once had an ex tell me off and kick off because I'd found a picture on his phone of him and his ex having sex. It was my fault for looking he said. Man's a narcissist through and through. This one sounds like he's a red flag sugar. You deserve better

If you have nothing to hide you will never mind reassuring your partner and showing them. Me and my partner have access to each other’s phones we don’t see it a big deal because we weren’t hiding anything. You have to follow what you say because if you don’t he will just think he can get away with it and forgive him. She doesn’t owe loyalty but it’s more about her morals. Don’t let him disrespect you x

@Ariyana @Sophie thank you and if I say that he’ll say something about other women allow their man to do that or something stupid the one that gets me the most heat is “you acting like you a fat ugly bitch they the only ones who worry about stuff like this” like what? You’re degrading and body shaming women and making them subjected to insecurity because their weight like other women don’t have feelings? It don’t make sense

@Sophie I seen that too in his phone. I’m definitely done I can’t do anymore I wasted 5 years I tried to push thru for the kids but I can’t anymore

And I know he thinks that since he forced sex on me we’re back good and we’re not I plan on blocking him after

Leave him the dark you strong amazing person and just go. Do whatever you need to. The first step and day is the hardest and it will be upsetting for a while. But this time next year you will be proud looking back saying this is the day I choose to love myself over that Asshole. You are so much stronger than he is thats why he's trying to make you feel scared and nervous all the time. His faults turn into yours because whilst your focused on trying to be better he's in control. Don't let him take your control sweetie. You got this. You are strong and amazing and deserve the whole dam world x

@Sophie thank you so much I really needed to hear that and helped me stick to my decision

100 % he is in the wrong! So disrespectful. He should not be taking to or about that girl ever. I do hope you leave there are dudes out there who will actually respect you and the relationship. You deserve so much better 💓