With much kindness, can you explain what made you get pregnant by him again and go through with the pregnancy? No judgement, just curious. I cannot imagine the position you’re in and it’s not fair at all that you have to be in it. I think if he’s not going to PARENT, because it is parenting, not helping, he needs to hire you help to have time to yourself. Doing everything alone since 2021 is a LONG time and it sounds draining. 🥺 With there being someone else present that’s unacceptable in my opinion. I feel it’s time for an ultimatum. If you have the money or resources, see if you can find a doula who offers postpartum services or just someone who is willing to help you at least occasionally that you TRUST. If you’re at the point you’re thinking about running away, you’re way past burnout and I hate that for any mom. 💕
@Mandi @Jackie O. I understand if I were to be judged because no one in their right mind would put themselves in a situation knowing what the outcome would be . I don’t even know if this would make sense . But I was a single child and my parents were divorced. My aunt and uncle brought me up and I stayed mostly with them and their children . I was sexually assaulted by one of my cousins from the age of 8 , and by another uncle around the age of 10 . I started self harming from the age of 8 because of the lack of not having anyone to turn too . My mother is always the type of woman who likes keeping the peace despite whatever has happened, from then on she made me realise I have no one I could turn too or anyone who’d support me , I always seen my cousins with their siblings and how close they all were . I’ve always wanted to experience having someone I can turn too because my parents were never there . I made a promise that I would never let my children feel the way I have
While I knew my husband wouldn’t be of much help , I put my ego and worries aside so I could see my children growing up having each other , if anything were to happen to me I would happily leave knowing I made sure my girls are always there for each other through thick or thin . Today’s world is a scary place , it’s hard when you have no one to turn too . Friends come and go , cousins drift away , siblings in today’s world hate on each other , but I know I would do a good job raising them to be sisters who are there for each other and not just sisters by blood. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense
That’s completely understandable and I see where you’re coming from, tbh you even having that mindset makes you a good mother. What you need to do is go to mummy groups meet new people,friends turn into family and in my experience can be even better than blood. You’re not alone, and tbh youlll never be alone as you’ve got the greatest gift life has to offer and that’s your babies
@Mandi thank you for your kind words , I’ve never heard anyone say the things you’ve said , it does make it seem a little better . Again thank you so much ♥️
I felt every word of this. Exactly what I went through with my kids' dad. I pray you can find for village 🤍🤍🤍
Praying for you, can I ask if you felt like this with the first how come you decided to have another, as I imagine it’ll be harder. And for your delivery go into it with a clear mindset hun, voice these worries to you partner and mum, you never know the difference it could make. (Hopefully in your favour) and if not in your favour at least you know YOU tried to reason