Formula feeding guilt
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I too felt guilty about formula feeding with my baby but she was born premature and the only way for her to gain weight was combo feeding (breast milk and formula). Breast-milk is the best for baby but if you feel mentally exhausted it’s ok to take a break from pumping. I was having anxiety from pumping to the point where the sound of the pump would drive me crazy and my doctor recommended to reduce my pump sessions since I’m already formula feeding her. A lot people are against formula feeding but it’s important that you are healthy in every way for your baby and that includes mommy being happy.
Why has your husband been doing research, literally just to make you feel like shit!!!! He should be supporting you. You're amazing don't let anyone tell you different and bring you down. Your baby is happy and fed, and that's ALL. That matters! Don't feel guilty for feeding your baby. However, that may be. I'm guna say it your partner sounds like an absolute dick what man does this after what you've been through and then says he's not happy with the decision only to make you feel like crap
You did fantastically well to BF for 4 weeks if you were having latching issues. Pumping is SO hard going. No man will ever understand. You gave your little one the best start you could. I haemorrhaged after delivering my daughter, so my supply was delayed and I had to introduce formula from the get go. I managed 7 weeks before my supply dried up completely and I am so proud, as should you be x
Hi! I had to stop pumping/feeding around 5-6 weeks. My supply just never got above about an ounce. You are NOT hurting your baby. My little guy is 3 months old, 13 lbs, and is happy and healthy. What is a breastfed baby if his mom is miserable? You did what you needed to do and you should be proud of the fact that you know how to make sacrifices for the sake of your child.
I formula fed my baby a week pp for my mental health and she was fed and is smart as a whip. I was able to breast feed my second which is a blessing but won’t be afraid to switch if it comes to it. My FIL made a comment saying “oh it’s good you’re not using formula this time breast milk is better” so I said oh then why didn’t you give your granddaughter a boob 😅 don’t let anyone make you feel small for doing what was best for you.
I did formula feeding right from the start. Not because I didn’t wanna breast-feed but because I’m on a medication that the doctors told me the baby would have to have blood work done every month to check how much if any of my medication was getting to the baby through the breastmilk. If you weren’t producing because of the pumping, and you were stressed out because of the pumping going to the formula was the only option you had baby wasn’t latching right away. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to pump enough or get baby to lash. It doesn’t matter as long as babies is getting what they need and gaining weight and growing, and the doctors are happywith the progress baby is making. My girl was only 5 pounds at birth and by one month had gained already 2 pounds from her birth weight and the doctors were very happy with it regardless of what the baby was being fed.
I had to stop breastfeeding on day 2.. I had complications after birth that weren’t caught until 10 days later. I couldn’t eat or sleep AT ALL for those 10 days and it completely tanked my milk supply to nothing. So she really only got colostrum and maybe 3-4oz of actual breast milk in her life and she’s 9 weeks old now. I cried for weeks about it. It wasn’t my fault, my body couldn’t handle it with no fuel. I tried really hard to gain my supply back, but couldn’t. My baby is not only extremely happy and healthy, but is also hitting every milestone early thus far. That makes me feel better. I know breast milk will always be best and I still wish I could give her some. But she is proving to be just as happy and smart and HEALTHY as any breastfed baby. I know how you feel though.
I made it 6 weeks combo feeding twins before going to formula. I had multiple lactation consultant visits and tried everything I could think of and never produced more than 3 ounces a day while pumping 8-12x per day. Both the pediatrician and my OB recommended formula and just talking it through with both of them helped immensely. There’s so much hype about breastfeeding and I thought I was going to scream every time someone said supply and demand. It just never happens for some of us. I asked my pediatrician what formula he recommended and he said whatever was cheapest and that made me feel so much better in a way. Like literally whatever formula I could find would be just fine and he wouldn’t judge.
Fed is best! My supply never came in enough for my little one so I had to supplement with formula, now we are fully on formula no breast milk. And guess what, she’s a happy healthy 2mo old! There was a lot of guilt in the beginning, I felt like my body was failing her, but you just have to take a step back and make sure your decision is in the best interest of yourself (mentally especially) and your little one
Like they say fed is best. I also formula feed and I feel guilt for it. We can only handle so much at once. What makes me feel better is when I can start on purées and solids that I can give him nutrients through that as well.