What do you do?

Yesterday, I gave one of my toddlers juice in a Cocomelon cup and the other in a different cup. The second toddler pushed her cup away, and I quickly realized she wanted a Cocomelon cup like her sister. So, I switched her juice to a Cocomelon cup, and she drank it all up happily! 😂

I personally give in 99% of the time if it’s something that makes no difference like what pants he wears or what cup he uses. Think it’s nice for them to be able to make some decisions. Sometimes have to stand my ground though example when he’s asked for 1 thing for tea and I’ve cooked it then I put it in front of him and he doesn’t want that he wants the other thing. There’s no way I’m cooking something else 😂

I think it’s good to give our LOs a choice when it’s not that big of a deal - like what cup to use etc and save the battles for things that are important or keep them safe. Often I will give my LB a choice - this or that. Particularly with clothes if we are going somewhere and I want him to look really good and I know he might kick back a little as he prefers tracksuits over more formal clothes so I’ll pick out 2 or 3 options that I like and then ask him which one he wants to wear. This makes him feel like he is in control which is all they really want, the power to control some of their own choices.

It's silly choices for you but it's pretty much everything that your little one has any agency over. Personally, I give mine a choice upfront but if I offer something and she wants something else (like a different colour cup) I "give in" (although I don't think it's giving in). It's always good to try and look at things from their perspective, they are real little people after all!

Im going to try asking him do you want this or that, before he has the chance to tell me he doesn't want my choice 😂 Unfortunately dinner will be non negotiable though haha. Essentially I do not care what colour pants he has on but im not cooking another meal 😂🙈

Something like choosing which pants or cup they want i would let them decide but when it comes to something like food if you've asked for it and I've made it then say you don't like it/want it when I know she does, i won't make something else 😅🙈 she ends up eating it in the end anyway

I think they just like having the options . She loves chips i asked her do you want chips she shouted no i dont want chip! I said ok what would you like? SHE SAID SULKING i want chips . These kids . I some sometimes get a head and put 2 things out and ask her to choose what she wants work pretty well 90% of the time

We give options. Our son struggles a lot if things aren't how he "wants" them. It makes our days hard quite often when things aren't right in his head such as I've offered the wrong colour plate or spoon. We now have his plates, bowls, cups, cutlery in a trolley so he can pick his own. Little things make him feel like he's in control and can make such a difference in his day and especially around food and drink which we have problems with them I don't see the harm in it. We stay strong for the things that matter to us so it's a game of give or take.

I let my toddler choose everything, i am just giving her freedom in what she wants. I will give her two options ive chosen and shes happy as shes picked so everyones a winner x

We 100% have this from our toddler a lot. I’d say most of the time we’re happy to do what he wants but I do usually try and make sure the way he asks is polite and he says please and thank yous. Just to make it more of a conversation and choice for him than a demand 😂