Advice on what to do

Okay so I am in need of some pretty serous advice. My neighbor has a granddaughter right in between my daughters ages soon to be 8 and 10, granddaughter just turned 9. Anyway she is a super sweet girl, a good kid. She has become like my girls best friend she was their first friend they made when we moved in in June. She comes over quite a bit when she is at her grandma's her dad also lives there. One day she was telling me that her mom who lives with her mom, had moved out and moved in with her little brothers dad, but she wasn't going because she didn't like him because in her words "he's mean and abusive". Another day her and my girls were on a video call together and she had asked her mom for I think I piece of candy and she just laid into this poor girl yelling screaming at her. She told her mom thats not fair you you let "little brother" have it all day you always give him everything and not me. Then on Friday my oldest comes home from school saying "friend" was at school crying today she said her grandma kicked her out because she didn't clean her room. I asked her I thought she was living with little man's dad. She shrugs and said I guess she moved back. Anyway so here is my question as a mom, and a person who is really starting to fall for this kid because as I said she is really sweet and a good kid what would you do? Would you bring it up to your neighbor/the grandma and dad, or would you just leave it alone and mind your own business? Like I am really torn about this. I don't want to say something and they feel I'm crossing bounds because again I've only known them since June, but then I really do want to say something because what if there is more to this and she ends up getting hurt rather emotionally or physically. As a mom that would kill me. So PLEASE help what would you do?!

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Unpopular opinion but you could report to child services and ask them to do a welfare check. You just never know.

I agree with Sera

@Sera Kay ✨ that is a good idea only problem is I'm not sure what mom/grandma's address is over there. Like I know she's safe when she's at her dad/grandma's/neighbor's. I just feel really bad for this girl she's only 9 and definitely doesn't deserve being treated like this. NO child deserves that.

They can look into adresses and also get in touch with school who can also share more information.

If they can reach the child in any way even to ask her questions that would be a good start. And as above ^ they can go via the school for information if necessary

Okay, I will definitely think about that. Like I said, it's a great idea. Poll has definitely confirmed what I really wanted to do was talk to Grandma and Dad, so I will walk over there later today to talk with them. Thank you, everyone! Like I said, she really is a good kid. I enjoy her coming over to play, my girls really like her, and my 2 year old loves her. She tackles her with hugs when she walks in the door, screaming her name. Honestly, I think she loves it too because she gets a huge smile. I just hate to see her so sad about her mom and don't want it to escalate more than what it sadly already has. I was always told if you see something, say something. I just wanted to make sure I wouldn't be overstepping by speaking up. Again, thank you all. I will update you after I talk to grandma later. 🤗

ask for a CPS wellness check

If she’s still going to school CPS could meet her there

You are one of the few people in her life who has the power to speak up for her. Stay involved in her life. You can speak up carefully to the neighbor, school, or CPS but just know that CPS is the most extreme and difficult route. She’s lucky to have a grownup (you) notice something is wrong, so hopefully you can help her somehow, just by being a safe grownup in her life.

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