Struggling with life.

My dream was to become a mom but honestly I’ve just been hating it which is so hard for to me say so because I love my daughter so much. The first 4 months was the best months of my life but ever since about 6 months PP has been hell. She’s 14 months now. I feel like I have the “perfect life” where women would die for . I have such a great daughter, great husband, great living but I’m still unhappy On top of that I deal with severe depression. I recently started therapy but idk if it’s helping. It just sucks feeling like this. Idk if I’m the problem or I’m just unhappy with my marriage or life.

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What changed 6 months PP compared to the first 4 months? Is there anything in particular that you miss from before having a baby?

A mum is like an extra role you pick up, it is like a job except it’s a lifetime commitment, not temporary. So it’s important that you still have time set aside for you to be yourself and do things you enjoy. That can be anything like reading, crafting, music, writing, sports and so on. You should have a purpose outside of your family life too, otherwise you’ll become completely reliant on your partner and daughter for a source of happiness, which makes you toxic as a parent. Happiness should come from within, and that’s why you are still unhappy. Happiness should always come from yourself first, and as it does it will radiate to those around you as well, and that’s when you’ll be able to find and know true happiness. You can start simple by giving yourself an hour a day to just free write, meaning you can write anything and as much as you want within that hour, just don’t stop to think. Let the pen flow, don’t worry about grammar or corrections. It should help improve your mood.

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