To move or not to move

We live in North West London (UK) and it’s where our 3 year old goes to school (she’s on a school that goes up to 18 years old so she’s pretty much set now). My husband also works in this small town and has a unique business. He can take time off whenever he wants because he’s self employed. There’s a lot of land where he works so it’s great to take the kids there. His mum also lives in this town and she babysits every so often. We haven’t been happy here for a while but we’ve stuck around because of the above reasons. I don’t work and our baby isn’t in a nursery so it’s literally just because of my husband’s business and our daughter’s school. I’d love to move where my mum has moved to, up north with lots of room and lots of fields surrounding her. It seems like a slower pace of life and exactly what we’re after. But it’s a huge decision to uproot all of our lives. What would you do???

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You have the above and still aren’t happy. I think you already answered your question. You might move and still be unhappy or you might move and be the happiest.

That’s interesting. And exactly what I’m worried about. I’d hate to uproot all of our lives only to find that we’ve made the situation worse. Or maybe we’d move and wonder why we hadn’t done it years ago. I just don’t know, I’m so conflicted. We only have one life and I don’t want to waste it living in one crowded town forever when there’s a whole beautiful country out there!

Do YOU have any ties to London? Is your husband’s family there/he’s from there? Would your husband’s business work up North, as in, is there a market for it there?

Maybe try and have a better think about the reasons why you’ve been unhappy? Moving away might not solve all of the problems if the problems aren’t rooted from the house and town that you are currently living in. You need to identify your actual cause of your unhappiness. Is it the people? Is the fact that you don’t really travel much? Is it the fact that you’ve always been a stay at home mun and that has started to affect your own happiness? There’s a lot that needs unraveling. Before you go and make a life changing decision, you should try to solve small problems first, and if they just won’t go away, then it can be your last resort.

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