Second child temperament

Hi second or multiple children mamas. Im currently pregnant with our second, our first is an absolute angel, very calm, never tantrums. Everyone and I mean everyone jumps on the chance to tell me our second will be a terror and to be prepared. It really makes me down because this baby hasn’t even come into the world yet and people are already projecting. We have a very calm house and work hard to be present with our first and I hope to do the same with our second. Anyone have a second who is in fact similar to their first and equally chill? Sincerely, sick of “just wait…”

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My Jan23 child was my 2nd. His older brother was nearly 4 when he was born. I feel he is very easy going and was definitely a more contented and relaxed baby than his brother was. He is a more confident toddler than his brother was and there is more things for him to get cross about so he does have tantrums. But I don't think this is just vec

*because he is the 2nd child. Don't worry about what other people predict. All families and siblings groups are different. I've spent many years working in nurseries. Second born children are often more confident & easy going. But not all of them. You don't need to worry that they will be terrible. Stay positive 🙂

My first had always been ‘difficult’, newborn stage with him was hell really and he’s had a lot of issues like being super sensitive/ crying and tantruming at the drop of a hat, biting, etc. We started him at a New Montessori nursery where all the teachers are mums and it is definitely improving. Anyway - my second is the complete opposite. Absolute angel! I have a couple of other friends who had 2u2 as well so I’ve seen a few different scenarios first hand. One has an easy first and very difficult second. One has 2 chill ‘easy’ babies though the second does cry more than the first did. Every child is different and unfortunately I don’t think the ‘calm house’ and environment can fully fix a bad temperament (or I’ve done something very wrong with my first this whole time 😅)

My first has always been a lovely child as a newborn and now as a toddler.. of course there are tantrums but nothing excessive and she likes calm and quiet activities generally. My second is only 5 months old but if possible is even calmer.. she is such a smiley and happy baby, just in for the ride and cries very rarely compared to other babies x

Thanks everyone ❤️ yes totally know it’s a bit of temperament and a bit of environment of course. I know they’ll be amazing no matter what, I guess I just wasn’t anticipating so much negativity for the second pregnancy!

I don’t think the child being 1st or 2nd born etc makes much of a difference… I think each child has their own temperament and things that are difficult… my LO is technically my 1st but she has an older half brother, who, at her age was an absolute delight. He turned 4 or 5 and is so hard, due to a mixture of things. My daughter is a right terror now. Absolutely feral. I don’t think it’s because she’s the ‘2nd’, I think it’s just her 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

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