Help!!!

Hey mama. I’m not so sure what kind of help or comfort u need. Bt if I was u, I wudnt have that baby. I wud abort/terminate the pregnancy & just accept what has happened & move on from the man that clearly told me that he didnt want to be with me. If I was in ur situation, I wud jus learn to co parent with the child I already have bt I wud not be having that baby cuz I wudnt want to continue attaching myself in any way with some1 who doesn’t want a future with me. Bt that’s just how I wud handle it cuz I cudnt handle being a single mom of 2, especially to a man who made it very clear he didn’t want to be with me. Bt I hope u do wats best for u X.

@Jasmin just messaged xx

Crazy to tell someone to abort their baby because life isn’t going the way they thought it would. It’s not easy being a single mom at any number of kids. I just think it’s wild to tell someone that wasn’t even questioning abortion in their message, to abort their baby. Wild.

@Kat yeah that’s fucked

I agree with Jasmin. And it may not be what some wants to hear. But some men will be resentful in the end especially if they’re saying they don’t want to be with you. Would you be okay if that’s the case. You can never predict what the other parent will do. “Will you be okay as a single mom with no help from dad?” I would base my decision on that and take dad out your decision if you guys are not together. It’s not easy because they can choose to walk away. Which is why I can see why Jasmin would say to not go through with pregnancy. I hope it works out.

Mentioning abortion under this post is actually insanity.

Regardless of how anyone feels about abortion it is an option to explore. It’s her decision on what she will do. Providing an opinion under a post that ask for advice and opinion is not crazy. Everyone does not have to agree.

@LaRhonda she wanted comforting and advice on becoming a single mum. No where on this post does it say she doesn't want the baby and is considering her options. So yeah it is kind of a crazy thing to come out with

@Nicole Hun were are not here to go back and forth. Advice is advice on how to handle the situation. Which was asked. You may not agree with the advice and it’s up to her. And how to handle being a single mom when you’re not sure the outcome and dad is walking away can include terminating pregnancy. It’s up to her. But it’s hard for those who don’t agree with terminating a pregnancy to hear or understand why someone would be advising that. You’re valid with your feelings but others may have a difference in opinion.

@LaRhonda your she asked for advice on how to be a single mother. Not for advice on what other people would do in this situation.

@LaRhonda I'm pro choice that's not the problem here. This post just definitely isn't the right place to be mentioning abortion.

I wish I could report the people who are suggesting an abortion. A pregnant woman already has so many intrusive thoughts and I don’t think it’s helpful advice when both the parents are accepting of the pregnancy. I hope you have a good support system that allows you to make your decision alone. Please do what will bring you happiness. ❤️ I also hope your BD comes around and maybe you’re just going through a rough patch, it happens with children. All the best to you.

@Nicole That’s how you read it and some of us are older and can provide a different outlook from experience. If you don’t agree honey that’s okay. Again the person whose post it is can decide. Telling a woman you don’t want her but still want her to have your baby is what’s crazy. That man can throw that in her face later on. We’re all here to provide our opinion. Just move on if you don’t agree. It doesn’t have to be combative. You clearly don’t agree. So we would be going back and forth. She will decide for her. The end of my advice. No one is right or wrong. She will decide. Good luck girl! Just make the best decision for you and not dad!

@LaRhonda age has absolutely nothing to do with Outlook in this situation, for all you know I could have gone through the exact same thing regardless off my age. Read it which ever way you like but unless she stated she doesn't want the baby or she is considering her options. Then she is almost definitely is just asking for advice about being a single mother. That and the fact that the only comment the OP has liked is the one kat posted stating how mentioning abortion under this post is uncalled for 🤷🏼‍♀️ As for the back and fourth I think you will find your the one who initiated it lol

Sorry to the OP for the unhelpful comments, I haven't been in your exact position but I have gone through pregnancy alone and know how lonley it can be if you ever need to talk feel free to messege me 🩷

Pro choice or not it’s giving predatory to me. Obviously suggesting any life altering advice to someone who is emotionally vulnerable is wrong. It would be wrong for a man to do and is wrong for you to do as you are a random person on the internet. This suggestion isn’t helpful. She’s looking for support and community and quite frankly a little compassion.

@Sanna what do you mean “you wish you can report” if I clicked on your comment the 3 dots on the top right gives me option to report, same as if I clicked on your profile that gives me option to report too. You can report any comment, post or person on this app. FYI.

@Kat what’s crazy is u calling another person “predatory” cuz they offered advice & shared opinion lmao & I didn’t tell OP to abort her baby. Everything I said to her was from a “I” “Me” point of view. I clearly made it clear in my response that “it’s what I would do” based on the information that was given from that paragraph. I’m so confused how mentioning that “I” would abort/terminate my baby if I was in her situation is “telling” a mama to abort her baby. U can offer ur advice, share ur view point & opinions without attacking how another person chose to respond. We all have different perspectives! Please respect others. it’s very unhinged of u to jump to conclusions abt ppl u’ve never met based on a paragraph. Omg wild

Your comment was suggestive. Abortion is nothing to take lightly. Nothing from the original post alluded to her contemplating termination of the pregnancy. If you were a man or a healthcare professional this would be considered predatory, why are you any different? Suggesting that someone should get an abortion while they are in a vulnerable state is never okay. A grown adult at any age should know better. You have no idea what this woman is going through, what kind of man the baby daddy is, nor if she has any support from family and friends. This app is terrible. This has nothing to do with being pro choice or not. This is about the mental vulnerability of others and the effects your words have on people. You are a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Let’s say for example someone says they’re struggling with something in life and they are very depressed. Would you then say “if I was in your position I’d commit suicide” I’d hope not. Because that would be suggestive right? Now they might be thinking “well maybe they’re right and I should do that” and so consumed with grief they commit suicide. That’s the power of suggestion and your words have meaning. If to someone you don’t know

Ok so idc about anyone telling a mom who stated she's EXCITED for her baby to terminate, that's revolting. Now, to op, you absolutely have the strength and resilience to do it! The fact you're not trying to force his feelings is so mature and gives me so much hope in your emotional maturity. If everything in life happened how we planned, how boring it would be. Always feel free to message anyone you're close with and build your sense of community. Join some Facebook groups and such. One thing I love about single moms is how much they come together out of empathy and understanding. Please follow your heart no matter what it's feeling but don't let any comments here get to you. Siblings are so so amazing as a 2 under 2 Mama every day brings it's own struggles and joys. I'm always a message away if you need a listening ear, understanding heart, or cheerleader ❤️🫶🏻😊

@Kat like I said I was not suggesting she get an abortion. Again, everything in my comment is talking abt ME & how I (Jasmin) 🙋🏾‍♀️ wud handle the situation. With all due respect none of us on this app have any idea what any of us are going thru or went thru. Yes it’s tru, OP shared a paragraph of her life & I offered a paragraph in a response to her post. Ur right, She didn’t mention abortion in her post bt I did cuz like I said, that’s what I wud do. OP is going to choose to do what’s best for her just like any other mothers. I am not her and she is not me. Everyone is an individual. When ppl share their stories with others, there no right or answer in how others respond. Thats kind of the beauty or curse of the internet. We can’t help what “triggers” another person when we respond to ppl especially on the internet cuz we are practically strangers bt name calling & disrespecting another person is not okay. Bt ur entitled to ur opinion abt me if think Im crazy, predatory then so be it

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@Kellie thank you for letting me know, I had no idea! X