SIL issues

Since having my baby boy (1st child) one of my SIL has been more distant. Her reaction to us having a child was “she felt weird” and anytime I walk into a room she leaves or pretends to chat with me in front of others and when it’s just us she ignores me. She tries to chat with my baby though lol not sure if this is a personality thing or envy but it’s hard having good relations with every other in law except this one. It’s like complete silence. I know I shouldn’t care but it hurts. Any advice on how to navigate would be great. I don’t think I want to confront. I have been giving the same energy back like not starting conversation or engaging her (which I always did before like say hi or start a convo) and it feels that things have gotten worse. It’s like that feeling of wow this person really dislikes you and wants nothing to do with you, I haven’t done anything to her so it’s really uncomfortable for me to be in this situation. Also, I’m an empath and more sensitive plus being a new mom so it’s impacting me a lot more.

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Is your partner aware? What do they think ? Maybe he should be the one to approach a conversation to determine if your SIL genuinely has an issue. (Maybe she can’t have kids. (Not an excuse but an explanation of such) Because to feel weird about another woman’s pregnancy is weird AF & to be a family member makes it even worse. It’s scary. Not all relationships can be maintained. It’s hard to have to deal with ignoring /being ignored by someone but out of respect for yourself (not intended in a rude way) & excuse my french but F her. Don’t focus on it.

Husband is aware of the tension and some other family members on their side, they just say it’s someone with a difficult personality and to just leave it. I think I was trying to keep the peace before as I’m a people pleaser but it’s getting harder to keep after having a baby, it’s getting more toxic.

She felt weird about you having a child you should avoid her for that reason. I like it when toxic people distant themselves from me. 1 less problem.

My sister did this with me for years. It was intense jealousy she couldn't control, so she refused to be in a room with me. Needless to say we have no relationship now, and never really did. She only really saw me as a competitor and never a sister. I really hope it isn't that for you. My solution when it happened to me was to try to give her attention. It was really a lost cause and the best solution was to stay away.

I was in a similar situation with my sil. Not the same reason, but we were just "ok" and that's it. I talked to my husband about it, but ultimately, i just flat out asked her in person if she was upset with me. I HATE confrontation... so that took a lot for me to do that. I'm glad i did tho. Now...she's my sil, but she's also my best friend. I know you don't want to, but you should really talk to her. I tried having my husband talk to her before i did, and it did absolutely nothing. Talk to her in person. It might be something so little.

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