How are we regulating our anger?
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Are you getting out of the house much? You need chance to have some sort of breather with other adults, even with little one in tow. It helps.
You probably angry at someone/something else and just directing it at your baby. Taking a few breaths and affirming to myself that I don’t have be anywhere else or do anything else in this moment and redirecting my baby behaviour and distracting her always works 🫶🏼
I'd first suggest finding a reputable babysitter or nanny who can take her for the occasional day/ few hours! Its important to have some space to yourself when you can. Then Id look into dialectic behavior therepy and emotional regulation skills. They have helped me be less reactive and impulsive when I'm feeling triggered.
I really struggle with this. I get really overstimulated and claustrophobic is the perfect way to describe it! I do struggle to regulate in these situations. A few things I've found help me are: - Changing the environment. Ideally going outside but even just to another room. - Doing something silly. Even if it's the last thing I feel like doing, blowing a raspberry or making a silly noise. It distracts LO, usually makes him laugh and just changes the atmosphere. - Narrating how I'm feeling out loud. I don't know why this helps but it does! - Tying my hair back up and splashing my face Doesn't working every time though. I still lose my temper sometimes.
First off its okay mama! Its okay to feel touched out and want a break especially when we are mostly just our babies jungle gyms at this point. My daughter is 10 months old and does the same thing. When i feel myself getting overwhelmed and frustrated to that point i just put her down for a few minutes and distract her with some toys and just take a minute to recollect myself and calm down. If you are a sahm, try taking baby for a walk and just get some sunlight and fresh air. Being inside so much can definitely take a mental toll. You are doing great and its okay to have these feelings!
I said the same to my 2 month old when breastfeeding was painful. Told her to get the fuck off me at 3 am. Honestly it's the worst feeling but you're not a bad mum!!