Are you able to go out with your baby and do things?
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With my first I put myself under so much pressure to get out and do classes etc. We were in baby massage classes by 6 weeks. I was so stressed as like you said, he was happy for such a short period then the crying & fussing would start! This time (my girl is 5 weeks) I’m staying at home as much as possible until she’s 12 weeks apart from appointments and walks by our house. I’m so much more attuned to her needs at home, we are both happier! Once she can stay awake longer and happier then we will go to lots of classes & groups that l went to with my first xx
@Ellie I’ve sort of done the same, although this is my first baby I made the decision a couple of weeks ago after a really stressful outing to stop making plans. Now I just stay in and haven’t put any pressure on myself to go anywhere, and it has been better but I still miss being able to go and do things lol! She also cries in the car seat she hates being strapped in and restricted so the most I do is little dog walks (only when she’s napping in the carrier) and if she’s in a good mood might try the baby class again!
@Christie I do think she gets a sensory overload as she calms right down with a dark room and white noise, and also I feel like she is much fussier when we’re downstairs and the tv is on and the lamps etc. our living room is quite colourful too and we have a kind of lowkey maximalist vibe on the walls with lots of photos and frames etc. I wonder if it’s a bit much for her since she’s just learning to see things maybe! Her favourite place is laying on her changing table where she looks up at a white wall with plain black photo frames. She loves the black frames! I wonder if it is a sensory thing then x
If it helps to know I’m in the same boat. My first was super chill and I would be able to take her anywhere without it being to much of a stress but my 8 week old is completely different and very very fussy. He also hates his pram which I’m gutted about 😂
I’m a young ftm and honestly I felt horrible when everyone else I knew was going out all day everyday woth their baby, meeting people etc. My baby was always fussy and crying when we’re out to the point I was just anxious leaving the house because of the amount of stress it caused me and I felt like everyone just stared at me and judged me when he cried when on reality there was nothing I could really do ( had reflux and colic) so I ended up spending I hate to admit maybe the first 4 months mostly in the house, we went on short drives or shopping. visited people but that was awful and he still hates it to this day 🤣 I’m just here to say it does get easier he is now 6 months and we’ve been going on walks almost everyday, we’ve been going to baby groups etc and he is much more settled and happy Pop me a msg if you want to talk more
My little boy is 8 weeks and he's abit like this but has cmpa and reflux have you tried white noise if you YouTube white noise with shush there's a 10 hour black screen video it's by baby sleep sounds as there's more than one on there honestly it's saved me no end of times even with out second child it did too just put them in the zone and falls asleep
@Chloe yeah we use white noise all the time it really helps! We have a white noise machine in our room and a portable one in the nursery. She also chills out if I take her in the kitchen while the washer/dryer is on or kettle!
My little brother was like this going out to certain places. It was a sensory overload for him but enjoyed certain places that were quieter, darker etc. It was very frustrating as I can imagine it is for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I can imagine it’s restricting. I feel my baby would be less chill if not for her dummy and car seat where I feel she feels very snug. The overtired thing bites me in the bottom if we’ve done ‘too much’ in the day as she’s nosey and likes to look about the whole time we’re out. Hope you all find a solution X