Narcissistic “mother”

She’s resorting to violence.. I can’t deal with this chaotic energy.

I told her not to try help me at all.. it was too showy and I felt so suffocated.

I just went no contact with my mom! She tried taking over my kids and making herself the one my kids ran to/listened to no matter what I did. Not worth it!

I wish I had a mother involved. Sometimes you should see the good in that. I’ve raised both my kids on my own no help. From bringing them back to the hospital to having to drive myself to appointments with the baby freshly from just having c sections.

You take it one step at a time . Now I love my family . I’m grateful. However it doesn’t change the fact that some are toxic . You take it one step at a time slowly distance your self to where you’re so independent. Where you can eventually distance yourself from your family

@Nicole I am so sorry you went through that but also having a mother like mine is opposite sides to your coin..

@Erica if you guys didn’t have a strong relationship before and she’s showing red flags it’s time to limit her access to you and your child. if she doesn’t want to acknowledge and respect your boundaries then don’t do it. as a ftm myself I’ve learned to ask for help but I limit access to those who are overbearingly helpful (like it’s their baby) and those who don’t want to put in the effort. I already told my mom she will never see her grandchild again if she thinks she’s taking over my daughter.

@Tiana girl, it was too overwhelming and I knew I had to trust how I was feeling. I set a very clear boundary and of course she tried to become manipulative and even put her hands on me.. like! I don’t give a fuck, you are not going to steal this moment with my child. Also if you’re acting like this with me, you don’t really care for my child either..

If she’s resorting to violence than y’all need some time apart. You are post partum, you don’t need that energy around you.

@Erica she’s delusional i’m sorry you have to deal with that. I love children so much and all I want is for them to be happy and healthy and for them to not grow up fast! these older adults will alter that all due to envy. do what you need to protect you both always!! she needs her mother just as happy and stress free.

@Tiana Thank you so much. It feels so good to feel validated where narcissistic family dynamics are involved.

Yes and by the grace of god thank you she is passing away she made me have psychosis when I just had my son evil woman threatened me but I stopped contact in every way for 6 months nearly I’m very happy doing solo parenting. You be careful she doesn’t start manipulating your daughter is set boundaries the minute she breaks it end of contact

@Lacey I actually feel so sorry for her ironically.. like she believes basic needs are a privilege which is so scary.. I’m hoping to eventually not have contact with her at all, ever! I unfortunately cannot right away. I am so sorry for your experience, I totally understand how you must have felt. xx