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Hi, I’m a FTM to a 8 month baby boy and am 24 years old. My best friend who I’ve known for 15+ years was pregnant during my last few months of pregnant and she delivered her baby boy in feb 13. Unfortunately, her baby boy would go into liver failure a few days after being at home. After returning to the hospital and looking for a donor he became to sick and he passed last night. I’m sooo confused and hurt for her, I’ve never had anyone close to me have such a devastating tragedy. I’m in physical pain for her and I don’t even know what to tell her. I’m coming here for clarity on how I can show up and support my friend. She right now lives in a Texas and I’m back in our home state FL. I dont know if I should try to attend to funeral even though my situation isn’t great for me to be traveling right now. I never expected to feel so devastated for someone. The first thing I saw this morning when I looked at my phone was a text from her saying her baby was in heaven 😢💔. I’m posting anonymous because I don’t want anyone from our home town to possibly see and receive the news this way.
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I think make the effort to go to the funeral and be there for her x
if you can go to the funeral I'd go. There's nothing much you can say or do to make it better. But just be there for her, support her and remind her that it going to be okay. Call her everyday even if it's only 5 mins or it's just staying on the phone and not talking but to have that option. You guys can wacth a movie and video chat it so it's like your together. That's what is really gonna help I think is just supporting her.
Try to be there as much as you can for her. If you can go, yes. She might not want to be around babies as much for a minute💔. Just let her talk about him. Let her grieve
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Definitely go to the funeral. But leave baby at home or with a family member. Make her a dinner that requires minimal effort (put in the oven, microwave, etc). If you can afford it, order a weeks groceries to the house so she has less on her plate. She may not know what she needs help with but think about the things you'd need help with if you were in her shoes and try to do those.