Kissing baby

I’ll be honest, I am one of those mums who’s over the top with sterilising, washing hands and making sure no one kisses baby. But I really don’t know if I’m over reacting with this. I’ve had multiple issues with my GP surgery where they’ve touched my baby without consent etc bur I’ve never taken it further. However, it was my son’s 16 week jabs today and I went with my Nanan. After he had his jabs another nurse or health care assistant (not exactly sure what her role is) but she came in the room. She had no reason to be there she just wanted to see a baby, which fair enough. He’d just had his jabs and she was chatting to him and he was laughing so I didn’t mind. She asked to hold him so I said yes because she was keeping him happy. She then proceeded to kiss his face and the side of his head, not his mouth but she still kissed him. I didn’t know what to say and as soon as she put him down I just left. I know she didn’t kiss his mouth but it still felt odd that a stranger kissed him. I cleaned his face as soon as we left though but I feel really really guilty I didn’t advocate for him and say please don’t kiss my baby. Anyway, once we were gone I mentioned it to my Nanan and said I wasn’t comfortable with that. My Nan then proceeded to tell me that when she was bitten badly by a dog and had to go to the doctors for her dressings to be changed, that she was the lady who changed them once. She said that her and my auntie got into an argument because she didn’t wash her hands and wasn’t being careful or sterile at all so there was a big risk of infection there. I really don’t know whether to contact the surgery and express my concerns over not only kissing my son but also how unsterile she was whilst changing my nans dressing. That’s 2 occasions there’s been risks of infections which could harm the patients and that’s just within my family. I don’t want her to be sacked nor punished but she clearly needs further training or speaking to regarding risk of infection & I’d hate for anyone whether it be a baby or an adult get an infection or poorly due to her. Please comment your opinions on whether I should contact the gp surgery & if you think I’m doing the right thing. I really don’t want to risk anyone’s job (I’m dyslexic so if it was difficult to read I’m sorry 🤣)

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I would definitely contact the surgery! That’s highly inappropriate and unprofessional for a health care provider to be doing ( with both things) I’d be mortified in your shoes. I get a bit weirded out by family kissing my son, never mind a complete stranger. I really don’t think you are overreacting, you don’t know where she’s been, you have every right to feel the way you do. It actually quite outrageous how she has behaved. I hope everyone’s okay. And don’t worry it reads perfectly fine 😂

You’re not overreacting that’s soo weird for ppl to kiss babies that aren’t there’s. I would’ve crashed out there and then

Don’t beat yourself up about not advocating for your baby in the moment; you were probably in complete shock/ disbelief! Because what she did was weird and unprofessional! I would definitely contact the surgery about your own experience in hope that this doesn’t happen to another parent/ baby. You can contact stating this is feedback, rather than a complaint but will escalate should this happen again.

I would report it to the surgery. I have a long term relationship with the health care worker at my doctor's surgery as I have seen her since I started being a patient there and as it's my husband's childhood doctors she seen him since he was young. Shes held my daughter but that is all. Kissing your baby is super unprofessional of this lady.

Thankyou everyone for the comments and reassurance. I’m going to contact the surgery today and state that further training may be needed with that member of staff xx

Whaaaaaat I’m like shook. She actually kissed him?!? 😮🤯 I’d be PISSED

Update- I had a doctors appointment regarding myself so at the end of it I mentioned my son being kissed and also stated this isn’t the first time that there’s been a risk of infection. I was so polite and said I didn’t want anyone’s job being at threat it’s just worth it being mentioned to the member of staff. The nurse decided to rip into me for the next 10 minutes and say the majority of mums want their babies to be kissed, every nurse in the gp surgery loves babies and wants to cuddle and kiss them and basically stated it’s a ME problem. She said they wash their hands when we don’t see and she said she knows who my auntie is who made the complaint against my nans dressings being unhygienic and said she works in theatre so it’s completely different she doesn’t get it. I was tearing up so got up to leave and she said as I was going out the door that I need to arrange either a diff surgery, or hospital or another member of staff because the lady who kissed my son will take my blood

@Grace Ditch that place. Sounds like they need avoiding big time. Imagine reacting like that to someone expressing their concern. They want reporting. Absolutely disgusting. It’s definitely not a you problem and it’s most certainly a them problem. I’d find a new doctors with professionals that work there rather than overly familiar, disrespectful posers. I can’t believe you didn’t even get an apology for the way they’ve made you feel x

@Melissa there’s another doctors linked to it in a village next to me but they are so much better and more professional. Definitely requesting all my appointments to be there following forward. But honestly it just baffled me her tone completely changed towards me when I mentioned it and she just kept going and going digging at me when she could see I was visibly getting upset. I was there for low iron anyway and she told me “yeah that’s normal you have a baby your gonna be tired” trying to disregard my concerns when I literally told her I was in the verge of fainting. Read my notes and she just said “she’s abit light headed” WHAT 🤣

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