MIL an Anti-Vaxxer - Tips?
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You get to decide the parameters that people need to follow if they want to visit you and baby. When I had my first, we had certain requirements of people (had to wear mask, wash hands, couldn’t wear perfume). And if they couldn’t follow those, they couldn’t visit my son until he was 3 months old and past the newborn phase when sickness is really scary. I had one family member say they would just wait until he was 3 months old.
Simple as this - it's your baby not hers. Your boundaries for your baby & their safety is not up for discussion. If she does not agree/like the terms, then she doesn't get to see baby, & that's on her. Mother in laws try to control everything & if you let her control this, it's only the beginning.
I’m anti-most-vax.. but at the end of the day, it’s your baby. I would recommend going over the vax info with her & see why it makes sense to give them to your baby. “Bc it’s recommended” = 🚩 It is known some vaccines are pushed for profit & the ingredients are setting up kids for illnesses later on in life.
To clarify, hubby and I are going to vaccinate our kid(s) and she can’t change our minds. My question is more how do we set boundaries with people who aren’t vaccinated until baby is old enough to receive their own doses?
Kindly post or let close family know in a group text that you will not be accepting visitors unless vaccinated until baby has his round of vaccines out of precaution with the new outbreak. That you don’t mean yo offend just want to keep baby safe and not have to worry about anything so soon after birth
@Kate I don’t think there is any other than just plain and simply letting them know. I would start telling them before you go into labor. I plan on announcing limited visitation until baby is one month. People are dirty as it is. But let me introduce baby into this world.. I don’t need the world coming to us.
I would recommend not having anyone not vaccinated to not be around until your baby’s immune system is stronger. Especially if you’re due in the winter/springtime when sicknesses are even more frequent. That’s just my opinion (I’ve never dealt with ani-vacs before). I voiced my plan of action to everyone in my family early on that I was going dormant in my house for the first 1-3 mo until mine and my baby’s immune system wasn’t completely shot anymore. Not only to keep getting sick to a minimum but also because when I’m tired and sore I’m cranky and don’t want to deal with people 😂 It all just depends on how strongly you feel about people and their germs being around you and your baby
My MIL is not a fan of vaccines either and she's a nurse. Go figure! My husband agrees with me that baby needs to be vaccinated. The way I see it, if she has a problem with it then she can deal with it. This is our baby and we get to make the parenting decisions. As long as she is respectful and doesn't bad mouth us in front of our child, then I really don't care what she has to say. I will respect her if she respects me and I have my husband to back me up. That's the best I can do.