opinions

I don't see the problem with taking baby on the train, however... If she wanted to see her, she would. Don't let it bother you because you will probably have many years of feeling bothered by lack of effort if you start letting it upset you now.

Of course some people have boundaries of what they can offer but noticed that some people, all they do is talk. my mil wants to keep getting updates but never helps, so we stopped sending pictures (she posts them online without our consent) so I said that she can come see her instead 🥴

I think you need to do what feels right for you. You shouldn't be made to feel like you need to travel with a newborn. I certainly don't think I would want to at just 8 weeks! They are so vulnerable. Not to mention all the preparation you have to do to have everything the baby needs with you. I think prioritising your baby's and your needs at this stage is most important, and if the grandmother isn't able to come, I suppose maybe she can be a little more patient for when the baby is older or find an alternative way of visiting. You have so much to think about at this moment and you can't accommodate others needs as well. Your baby comes first. That's my opinion

My mum also won’t drive on the motorway. It just means we have to do the round trip.