End of the relationship?

So me and my boyfriend of almost four years haven’t been doing great lately. He’s been yelling and cussing at me and I’ve finally had enough, but I’m scared to leave cause he says he gonna take my two year old son away from me. He has no job and I’m the only one who works and put in any effort and I also provide everything for our son. I just need to know if this relationship is worth fighting for or should I call it off.
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Sounds like you've got to call it off ... And on top of it, shouldn't be afraid as if he has no job, he has no chance whatsoever to take your son away from his mom. First of all you have the advantage of being the mommy and on top of it, in your case you're the provider as well, so ... He has nothing on you!

You should 100% end it with him and never ever let someone treat you like that ever again!! And for any future man, either he treats you with total love and respect and does his fair share in the relationship or don’t be with him!! You can do this mama! In fact, you’ve already been doing it all. It will just be easier without him dragging you down.

I’m really sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend are having problems right now. First, since you have a child together, I always like to suggest trying to communicate and working things out and telling how you feel. From the way it sounds, you are not able to do that. It might be better for your mental and emotional well-being (and your child’s) to get out of the situation. If he does not have a job, he really doesn’t have a leg to stand on. I have heard that men say that all the time, toward the end of a relationship, mostly to make the mother scared, and exert any type of power or mental control they can. Often times, they do not mean it, and it turns out to be an empty threat. My advice is to not be afraid. And do what you have to do for your child.

Personally I’d get out now before you waste anymore time and I can pretty much guarantee you he won’t take your son just knowing he’s lazy or so it sounds like!! Just know you are brave and you can do whatever you put your mind to 🫶🏻

I'd definitely get out, and if he tries anything with your son, tell your case worker about his yelling and cussing and threats. Hell get evidence if you can. That'll help with any custody hearings, if it even goes that far.

I went through something similar with my husband what I could say is I got myself out of that situation although at the time I was the one not working, but I got another job in my home state and quickly enforced boundaries with him. Do not let someone continue to disrespect you without consequence I can say now it's been about 4 to 5 months since I've left our home together he also had to move and figure his stuff out. Sometimes people need space to really decide what's truly important to them and once they realize where they went wrong, they can change. However, sometimes they don't change and at least you got yourself out of that situation but I absolutely suggest space if you can because it only gets worse if you stay in that negative environment. Remember, your child is watching and the energy doesn't impact them well either.

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