Baby & Toddler
Seeking a bit of ‘I know how you feel!’ I had my second baby in November and I can honestly say it’s been a real struggle. My firstborn is really struggled with sharing me and often results in a lot of tantrums or negative behaviour to get my attention. This often results in my first being told off by me on the back of sleep deprivation and exhaustion, lots of tears both sides and then feeling pretty crap and low about myself and my parenting daily. I can’t give both girls what I want to and feel like the shadow of the mother I was before my second came along. Please tell me it gets better. I’m finding it so hard to give my eldest what she needs, even when my baby is asleep I feel so exhausted that even playing is hard work 🥺 I just feel unrecognisable from who I was before and a bit lost
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@Chelsea it’s so hard isn’t it. I’m sure you’re doing your best every single day for them both. We’ve just got to keep showing up!
I’ve got a may 2022 little girl and an April 2024 little boy and can honestly say it does get easier - their relationship started getting better when he started to play rather than just lay there. And as his sleep has gotten better I’ve returned to feeling much more my self. As time has gone on I’ve gotten more confident in parenting them both due to baby formulating more of a routine that I could then work around and set things up for my eldest ahead of nap time/ feed etc. You’ve got this x
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I had my eldest boy in May 2022 and newborn November 2024 and I’m right there with you 🙃 I feel like all I say is no, stop and shush! I feel mum guilt all day every day and it kills me that my little boy has seen his mummy change in front of his eyes yet he’s still so young I’m hoping he doesn’t notice. I’m convinced I’m damaging him but I also know that’s very dramatic and he knows I love him so much and give him 1-1 time whenever I can but wow, baby and toddler is so difficult! He is just jealous and just wants attention and I can’t blame him, he’s 2!! It’s gotten me so down and depressed over the last couple of months….hoping it gets better!! I just want to be the mum I was with my eldest to my youngest 😭😭 xx